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So yes, this is true. I've been lucky overall but I have friends who experienced terrible therapists. And it is true that awful ppl can use therapy to justify their awfulness instead of become better people. All true! Yep. BUT it is also true that therapy can help A LOT. https://twitter.com/benedict_rs/status/1337532595286978563
If you want to find solutions for problems in your life, therapy is a great way to do it. So the real question is: how to find the RIGHT therapist. After years of a long life spent in and out of therapy, here is my very subjective advice:
[note: I am not a therapist or a mental health advisor in any sense or form. This advice is based on my experiences as someone who has gone through multiple therapists and therapies over 30+ years! Do what is right for YOU!]
1a. Do your research. There are a LOT of different types of therapy, and some might resonate with you better than others. When I decided to try EMDR, I searched for someone who specialized in it, for instance. Try things out. Not everything is for everybody.
1b. This sounds irreverent but it is very helpful: think of finding a therapist kinda like dating. They might be a great person but not the right person for you! Their degree/experience doesn't automatically make them a good match to help you. Shop around.
2. Make sure they are on the same moral/religious/political wavelength as you are. Look, I know therapists are supposed to be neutral but these biases (and bigotry, at times) shine through. Remember it's about YOUR comfort zone, not theirs.
(esp. these days)
(esp. these days)
3. Trust your instinct, and know that you can change your mind. I had one therapist who helped me a lot for about a year but then I just started feeling uncomfortable around her. I still don't know why...her? or Me? Doesn't matter. I quit and found a MUCH BETTER therapist.
4. TRUST YOUR INSTINCT. It just bears repeating, tbh. Every bad therapy story I've ever heard included the phrase "I wasn't comfortable there but..." Being uncomfortable is part of therapy, true, but there is a huge difference ...
... btwn being uncomfortable b/c you are wrestling your issues vs. the person in the room with you makes you nervous/anxious/etc. Therapy requires vulnerability and honesty, and those are uncomfortable things. If your therapist is not helping with THAT, then dump 'em.
5. And finally: if you feel like you have to "perform" good mental health with your therapist, drop them. Either they aren't doing their job or you don't want to do the work. Either/both might be true! But in the end it's not helping you. Drop them and regroup.
Like I said, I'm not a professional therapist (or even an amateur one!) so this is just advice from the "client" side of things. Keeping these things in mind has helped me over the years, and I hope helps you too. 
