I’ve decided that I hate the phrase or saying “Let me know what I can do for you.”

I’ve decided I’m against to for several reasons.

1/

When you tell someone “Let me know what I can do for you.” They are usually not in the position to think that far ahead.

Whether it be stress, a mental health crisis, or just not being able to process more than what’s in front of them at the moment.

2/

It’s well meaning — absolutely, but it is adding more pressure and work to the person you’re probably trying to help load off things for.

For me (and this is purely my opinion)
It reads I wanna help, but I will only do it if you tell me how.

3/

When I am at my most depressed or anxious I can’t think of anything besides *maybe* keeping myself alive day to day.
I usually don’t have the brain space to say “I need xyz”.

OR

There is so much shame tied into asking for what you need.

4/

I guess all of this is just to say:
Show up for people.
Show up in the grief, exhaustion, mental health battles, family drama, sickness, or whatever.

Don’t think too hard about it — just be there in whatever capacity you can, even if empty handed. It speaks volumes.

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