I think I've said this elsewhere but one of the things I find most infuriating about the neo-hippies, some meditators, and some sects of the post rationalists is that they frequently mistake healthy boundaries for repressed trauma that is preventing you from connecting with them

They are like "hm you seem guarded" and I'm like yes, yes indeed, that is because you are willfully ignoring my healthy trust checks that you *have not passed* and so I am blocking you out because you are being socially invasive

I am not going to be vulnerable with you I do not trust you, I don't know anything about you, and you haven't taken the time to get to know me. I cannot play along with thid "let's connect because we are fundamentally connected" rather than because we have any shared interest

This brand of social openness is not a virtue, it is preventing you from having normal interactions and getting things done in the world that will give you meaning and value! Vulnerability has a place and that is with people who you have already established trust with.

We need to talk about the social threat of feelings supremacists