I, too, was in an abusive relationship once upon a time. The kind where the smallest thing would set them off like a bomb. It was like dating a ticking time bomb w/random resets.

Without sharing more, I’ll just say you can’t stay + fix them. They will ruin you. That’s not love.

It’s not bad or mean to acknowledge somebody is damaged and there’s nothing you can do for them.

Anybody who treats you like the bottom of their shoe does not love you.

Figure out how to leave. It might even take a bit of strategy, but you can do it.

My case was emotional abuse. It was just as insidious.

That time period is singed into my brain in a way that helps now: I see messy I bounce.

Life is too short and you are too valuable. For every person who treats you poorly, there are 50-11 people who will elevate you.

It was a close friend that had to remind me of everything I had to lose vs the person I was dating. Listen to your friends—the ones that really know you.

(I say this so it’s clear I didn’t have some magical epiphany of clarity on my own.)

This was a few years ago now, but anybody can end up in a bad situation!

Glad @FKAtwigs shared her story and moved to hold her abuser accountable.