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Okay I need to talk about something I’ve observed here when we disagree on things. I don’t think people are going to like hearing it, but it makes me really uncomfortable and I feel like nobody else is seeing it because you’re all so convinced you’re the ‘right’ ones [1/14]
Side 1: I am 100% unhappy with this thing and I have decided BTS are 100% unhappy with it too
Side 2: You can’t assume how BTS feel or project your feelings onto them
Side 2: Anyway, I am 100% happy with this thing and I have decided BTS are 100% happy with it too [2/14]
Side 2: You can’t assume how BTS feel or project your feelings onto them
Side 2: Anyway, I am 100% happy with this thing and I have decided BTS are 100% happy with it too [2/14]
Neither of you know unless BTS explicitly say, you realise that right? And that also it’s possible for BTS to have things they liked about something and things they didn’t like?? They might feel mostly positive but have some things they’d still change, and vice versa [3/14]
None of you are there when these things happen. None of you actually know. You disagree with the story the other side came up with to support their own narrative, then immediately come up with your own story to support yours, not seeing that’s also not okay [4/14]
You will take one tiny action on BTS’ part and assume it says EVERYTHING about their feelings, their emotional state, their opinion. All seven of them. And of course, all these assumptions exactly align with what you already wanted to think. Confirmation bias. [5/14]
That happens on BOTH sides. Don’t read that and think ‘oh yeah the other side always do that it drives me crazy,’ because you both do it. It’s to support completely opposing views, but you both do it. [6/14]
There is no room for nuance, no room for BTS to be normal humans who can have mixed feelings, parts of their lives they may like or dislike, decisions they may take or things they may let slide for a greater a good. It is ONLY good or bad, like they’re cartoon characters [7/14]
Even the calmer people are guilty of the exact thing they’re telling others not to do, which is assuming they can speak for BTS and know how they feel. STOP. You are not mind readers and few situations are as entirely perfect or entirely terrible as each side claims [8/14]
I know it’s a reaction against the aggressive behaviour associated with this stuff. And GET IT. Believe me. Seeing that is a sure-fire way to make my anxiety spike. But I can never ever be comfortable with us talking for BTS, whatever the reason. We have no right [9/14]
The more we do it, the more likely we are to get it totally wrong. It’s happened before. This is not to say I think it’s comparable to harassment etc because I don’t. But I do think some of you are losing what you believe to be an objective, balanced view. It’s concerning [10/14]
You could say ‘actually we can’t know that’ and leave it there, but you don’t. I don’t know if it’s because you feel the only way to push back is to take the exact opposite stance. Even if it means contradicting yourselves [11/14]
And none of that helps, bc even though they’re too lacking in self-awareness to notice they’re hypocrites too, the aggressive people WILL see it in you. They’ll see you telling them not to speak for BTS, whilst it’s apparently fine for you to do. And they’ll get madder [12/14]
Of course it’s not only that, people who send abuse and de*th threats have existing issues. But I do suggest that you look more carefully at your own behaviour and boundaries. Learn the art of saying ‘I don’t know how they feel but I trust them’ and leave it there [14/14]
I’m just going go add I know it seems like I’m talking to one side more than the other but that’s because I know the kind of people who follow me. I find the super aggressive dogpiling people much worse, but I block them
My point is that even if I disagree with one side, it doesn’t mean I’m going to comfortable with everything the other side is doing either. I can agree with you but still think there are lines that shouldn’t be crossed
