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I've been in an abusive relationship before.
It took everything in me to get out. I also had amazing support from family, friends, and a wise therapist.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
What @FKAtwigs said is true. Abuse can happen to anyone.
It took everything in me to get out. I also had amazing support from family, friends, and a wise therapist.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
What @FKAtwigs said is true. Abuse can happen to anyone.
“In an abusive relationship, there’s.. a “honeymoon phase” sets a benchmark for how happy the romance could be. Though flashes of bliss may remain, they are meted out through increasingly controlling demands and impossible standards of behavior.”
Yup. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/11/arts/music/fka-twigs-shia-labeouf-abuse.html
Yup. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/11/arts/music/fka-twigs-shia-labeouf-abuse.html
And a relationship doesn't have to get physically violent to be abusive. You get conditioned to constantly living in fear and walking on eggshells. Being told that you're less than. Not good enough.
That you need to work to live up to their standards. Or else.
It's hell.
That you need to work to live up to their standards. Or else.
It's hell.
I never thought abuse in a relationship could happen to me. I was supposed to be the smart, successful, "fierce" woman. I had my own money. I have great family and friends.
And yet.
It happened to me.
And yet.
It happened to me.
This was a while ago, but the trauma is still there.
Abuse thrives in the darkness of shame, fear and silence. I know it can be tricky to speak to someone who is in an abusive situation. I was that someone.
But it was the love and persistence of my friends that saved me.
Abuse thrives in the darkness of shame, fear and silence. I know it can be tricky to speak to someone who is in an abusive situation. I was that someone.
But it was the love and persistence of my friends that saved me.
I appreciate y'all calling me brave. Sure, it took courage, but I was also just lucky.
Blessed to have support. Fortunate to have a safe exit. And even now, I have a (modest) platform to talk about abuse without much fear of retribution.
So many are brave, but arent as lucky.
Blessed to have support. Fortunate to have a safe exit. And even now, I have a (modest) platform to talk about abuse without much fear of retribution.
So many are brave, but arent as lucky.
If you are in an abusive situation, just know, you likely will never be able to heal or change the person that is hurting you.
But you can always save yourself.
Choose yourself. You will *never* regret choosing yourself and your well-being.
But you can always save yourself.
Choose yourself. You will *never* regret choosing yourself and your well-being.
I know from experience that abuse gets worse during the holiday season.
If you know and love someone who you think might be in an abusive situation-- speak up.
Offer them support, love and patience. It may not always work. But please try.
If you know and love someone who you think might be in an abusive situation-- speak up.
Offer them support, love and patience. It may not always work. But please try.
Oh. And.
All of this happening while I was trying to write a book.
Hell upon hell upon hell upon hell.
All of this happening while I was trying to write a book.
Hell upon hell upon hell upon hell.
