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One factor in long-term mate seeking that I don’t see addressed much is the like factor.
Generally speaking, women who seem to *genuinely like* men (not merely desire or want one) do better.
Generally speaking, women who seem to *genuinely like* men (not merely desire or want one) do better.
And men who seem to genuinely like women (not feminist-boy simping, but a general appreciation that women-as-women are pretty neat) seem to pull better prospects as well.
And I think that “like” factor gets best developed in families - which may be why we have less of it these days.
Not just mother/father stuff, but the whole exposure to cross-gender relationships with sisters, cousins, uncles, etc that are non-sexual in nature.
Not just mother/father stuff, but the whole exposure to cross-gender relationships with sisters, cousins, uncles, etc that are non-sexual in nature.
I think anyone with the pov that “Men/women as a whole gender are fundamentally and in essence horrible - but Ima find the rare unicorn that isn’t” is going to have a very difficult time.
I **like** men. I enjoy and relate to our shared humanity, and where we differ(and we do), I find them interesting. Or amusing. Or eye-rolly. 
Or admirable. Or haven’t-a-clue-but-that’s-fine. Or any number of things.
But not threatening or despicable.
Or admirable. Or haven’t-a-clue-but-that’s-fine. Or any number of things. But not threatening or despicable.
And the best men I know pretty much view women as a whole that way as well.
I mean, y’all - at least *some* of marriage, if you get there, is gonna consist of rolling your eyes at un-“fix”-able gender stuff that makes absolutely no sense to you. Either sex.
You need to be able to do that with affection and good cheer.
Start practicing.
You need to be able to do that with affection and good cheer.
Start practicing.
