Being A BEGINNER as a man is UNATTRACTIVE:

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I am studying at a Japanese school, and almost ALL THE STAFF ARE "FERTILE" WOMEN.

Now: I will confess I am taking "basic" Japanese for the 5th time...

And, as it's a review, I am MORE CONFIDENT now...

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LAST SEMESTER, I was getting crushed by the pace of this school (too fast).

Not only was I a BEGINNER (not attractive in men), but I was always in a state of FAILURE (zero momentum, low vibe).

It IS HARD TO BE COOL WHEN YOU SUCK.

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THIS SEMESTER, I took the entire term over. It is all review for me now.

So... I don't look (or FEEL) like a beginner anymore, I am doing pretty well...

And I HAVE MORE SWAGGER. Better energy. I feel "cool."

And have a MUCH BETTER VIBE w/ the women in the school.

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I walk into the office (or in class) now, and pour "HIGH QUALITY ATTENTION" into my interaction w/ the staff...

And THEY ALL GIGGLE.

I couldn't do this last semester... Being a beginner/failure, made it very hard to play THE ROLE of the COOL GUY.

My energy sucked.

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This is an EXAMPLE of:

DO YOU TRUST YOURSELF?

When I am failing and defeated, it is harder to maintain the "vibe" of "I trust myself."

Because I don't. That is real.

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I don't like "FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT."

"Fake" = BS.

I could pretend...

But I know, internally (where it counts), the actual rank my performance merits... So it would be INCONGRUENT to trust myself when I am clearly failing.

CONGRUENCE is how others know to trust you.

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But this semester (at least for now), in the context of the school, I have some genuine skill/mastery...

Therefore... I can TRUST MYSELF and be CONGRUENT with that trust.

From that... REAL ATTRACTION is easy...

All the girls are relaxed around me, they giggle, they glow.

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