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THREAD: Spiritually toxic friendships are the hardest to recognize because they can be masked in mantras, self care buzzwords, and performative spiritual alignment
“I Don’t Agree with”
Spiritually toxic friendships don’t respond well to feedback. Often it results in covert manipulation, gaslighting, or lashing out
Spiritually toxic friendships don’t respond well to feedback. Often it results in covert manipulation, gaslighting, or lashing out
Double Standards
Spiritually toxic friendships have double standards. They expect a lot from you, but very little from themselves. Often, refusing to adjust
Spiritually toxic friendships have double standards. They expect a lot from you, but very little from themselves. Often, refusing to adjust
Gaslighting
Spiritually toxic friendships will often involve gaslighting or minimizing how you feel as a result of their actions (in situations where it is reasonable to be upset). Empty apologies and blame shifting
Spiritually toxic friendships will often involve gaslighting or minimizing how you feel as a result of their actions (in situations where it is reasonable to be upset). Empty apologies and blame shifting
Manipulation *
A big part of spiritually toxic friendships is manipulation such as random withdrawal, love bombing, breaking promises, weaponizing trauma / guilt tripping, and spiritually “one upping.”
A big part of spiritually toxic friendships is manipulation such as random withdrawal, love bombing, breaking promises, weaponizing trauma / guilt tripping, and spiritually “one upping.”
Unhealthy Relating
Spiritually toxic friends have patterns of unhealthy relationships. They are often in and out of high intensity friendships and relationships in rapid succession. They share highly personal details about their partners and friends. Others are always wrong
Spiritually toxic friends have patterns of unhealthy relationships. They are often in and out of high intensity friendships and relationships in rapid succession. They share highly personal details about their partners and friends. Others are always wrong
Weaponizing Vulnerability
Spiritually toxic friends gather a ton of information about you, during a time where they receive valid constructive criticism they may lash out at you by weaponizing your vulnerabilities with the intention to hurt you
Spiritually toxic friends gather a ton of information about you, during a time where they receive valid constructive criticism they may lash out at you by weaponizing your vulnerabilities with the intention to hurt you
Isolation
Spiritually toxic friendships may isolate you from other friendships and bonds. You may feel like they ‘need’ you and you are on call. Whereas they may be unavailable to you in the reverse
Spiritually toxic friendships may isolate you from other friendships and bonds. You may feel like they ‘need’ you and you are on call. Whereas they may be unavailable to you in the reverse
Lack of Empathy
Spiritually toxic friendships may have a hard time seeing valid pain or suffering inflicted upon others. You may feel “used” to some degree as though you deeply related one day and then feel invaluable/ insignificant the next
Spiritually toxic friendships may have a hard time seeing valid pain or suffering inflicted upon others. You may feel “used” to some degree as though you deeply related one day and then feel invaluable/ insignificant the next
Feeding on Negativity
Venting and making friends aware of big life events is healthy, spiritually toxic friends may only call or appear during crisis (yours or theirs). But healthy middle ground attempts at conversation are rare
Venting and making friends aware of big life events is healthy, spiritually toxic friends may only call or appear during crisis (yours or theirs). But healthy middle ground attempts at conversation are rare
Spiritualizing
Spiritually toxic friendships ironically may also “spiritualize,” situations where there is genuine harm. This may present as gaslighting, their “evolved spirit,” or wokeness means they are off the hook and absolved of accountability
Spiritually toxic friendships ironically may also “spiritualize,” situations where there is genuine harm. This may present as gaslighting, their “evolved spirit,” or wokeness means they are off the hook and absolved of accountability
Used
Spiritually toxic friendships will result in this eerie gut feeling that you’ve been used. You may feel like you were not a priority
Spiritually toxic friendships will result in this eerie gut feeling that you’ve been used. You may feel like you were not a priority
Cycles
Spiritually toxic friends work on cycles of love bombing and negative actions. You may even notice them first with other relationships in their life. Others are the absolute best, then they’re at odds in loop
Spiritually toxic friends work on cycles of love bombing and negative actions. You may even notice them first with other relationships in their life. Others are the absolute best, then they’re at odds in loop
