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Being vocal during sex and learning how to “receive” is a mountain for some. We dissociate and want to get to the point. We feel we’re not due our pleasure and just want to perform. Understand people can’t show up for you unless you show up for yourself.
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We get in our heads and worry about how we look.
We worry about taking too long.
We feel as though we must get to the destination as soon as possible.
We worry about taking too long.
We feel as though we must get to the destination as soon as possible.
Sex is a conversation and the one that loves you most asking you to speak.
How do you work? What do you struggle with? How can I meet you halfway?
How do you work? What do you struggle with? How can I meet you halfway?
If you don’t have issues instructing others how to handle you and submitting to them delivering, then this thread isn’t for you. But for everyone else get to a point where you feel safe in the connection.
That’s why taking things slow helps. There’s a foundation there. You feel you belong, as a result you will feel yourself showing up for yourself more.
Victims of SA have a habit of just trying to get to the point when they’re not ready. Being horny doesn’t mean we’re ready. Our body responds because of basic biology, but if you tickle me and I start squirming & laughing does that mean I want to be tickled. No it doesn’t
So take your time, and be your own spokesperson when you ARE ready. Saying “it’s fine” hoping they call you out or push further won’t help. Your words matter, your body matters, and that bed was made for two. You cum first.
