You sit down, analyze and unkindly judge people's breakthrough or breakdown when you don't even fully understand what they have been through.

When violence happens, it is not the time to start blaming the abused.

Every year, millions of people all over the world are victims of domestic violence.

Domestic violence can be one of the most difficult types of situations to talk about and to escape from.

No one is immune to domestic violence.

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Stockholm syndrome
Trauma bonding
Battered Woman Syndrome
Learned helplessness

1. A person with Stockholm syndrome develops positive associations with their captors or abusers when they experience significant threats to their physical or psychological well-being.

Intimate Partner Violence, Learned Helplessness, Trauma Bonding and Battered Woman Syndrome, can lead to mental & physical health problems, feelings of fear, low self-esteem, & guilt, as well as symptoms of PTSD. These can also persist long after leaving an abusive relationship.

2. Battered Person/Woman Syndrome

People especially women who find themselves in an abusive relationship often do not feel safe or happy. However, they may feel unable to leave for many reasons. These include fear and a belief that they are the cause of the abuse.

They may also behave in ways that can be difficult for people outside the relationship to understand.

refusing to leave the relationship or marriage

have perceived moral or religious reasons for staying in the relationship

feel isolated, anxious, depressed, or helpless

love the person who is abusing them and believe that they will change

believing that the other person is powerful or knows everything which is about control & fear

when things are calm, idealizing the person (the abuser) who carried out the abuse

3. Stages or Cycles of Abuse/Violence

Abuse can happen on a single occasion, or it can be a long-term problem. It can happen most of the time, or only from time to time.

Most abusers use different narcissistic tactics to keep their victims under control and in fear.

Tension building:

Tension slowly builds and causes low-level conflict. The person carrying out the abuse may feel neglected or angry. They may think that these feelings justify their aggression toward the other person.

Battering phase:

Over time, the tension grows into a conflict, culminating in abuse, which may be physical, emotional, psychological, or sexual. Over time, these episodes may last longer and become more severe.

The abusers inflict pain on the abused through harmful tactics.

Honeymoon phase:

After carrying out the abuse, the abuser may feel remorse. They may attempt to win back their partner’s trust and affection.

The abused person may idealize their partner during this period, seeing only their good side and making excuses for what they did.

Leaving an abusive relationship can be difficult to do alone. However, support groups and advocates are available to help those concerned about their situation and those who have decided to leave an abusive relationship.
It can take time to make this decision. Please don't judge.

Some ways to plan ahead include:

asking for support from a trusted friend or family member

being ready to give concrete examples of events and actions the person has taken to keep themselves and their family safe

seeking contact details of organizations that can help

Some challenges that can make it harder to act include:

a lack of financial resources, if the person has been financially dependent on their partner

a sense of isolation and fear that nobody will understand

a sense of guilt that this may not be the right thing to do

a fear of further violence or of pressure to return to the same situation

concerns about legal consequences or financial or material loss, especially if there are children involved

a belief that the abuse is one’s own fault, leading to a sense of helplessness or powerlessness and an ongoing belief that, somehow, things can get better

Stockholm syndrome - psychological response follows after a period of time and is a survival strategy for the abused.

After leaving an abusive relationship, it can take a long time to deal with the emotional and physical impact of the abuse, and the person (survivor) may need a lot of support.

Society should stop being judgemental towards survivors of violence. Hold abusers accountable.

Options for recovery:
learning about the impact of abuse, including how it affects self-esteem

psychotherapy, to deal with the emotional consequences

medical care, to treat any physical effects or injuries, manage depression, anxiety, insomnia, etc.
support groups & CBT

Verbal, mental, and physical abuse can happen to anyone. Trauma may happen to you or anyone.

People don't wake up and decide that they want to be abused or violated.

The wounds of the heart and the scars on the mind really hurts.

END THE VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN. #16Days