Queer women, un-normalize the locker room talk about “wlw sex is better, we always orgasm” like y’all really be cappin hard on social media about sex. We are not any better than cishets. Just bc you date girls doesn’t automatically mean you’re gonna have great sex. (thread)

To expand on that: I’ve seen plenty of queer women open up on tiktok saying when they first starting have sex w/ women, they actually didn’t know what they were doing & a lot of people were relating. It is completely normal. There’s this weird pressure or expectation for queer-

-women to be these sex goddesses when in reality it’s not true. There are plenty of women who haven’t experienced an orgasm during sex or haven’t experienced much sex at all or just don’t even desire sex in the first place. Ace people are valid. I feel like the pressure involves-

-women to feel like “oh I don’t want anybody to think I’m terrible at sex” or “I have to prove myself to people” or “well they’re all bragging they’re good at it so I might as well too so I don’t look like a loser” again, locker room talk. & it makes me sad. None of us know-

-what to do 24/7. Admitting that shouldn’t equate to “we’re bad at sex” it means that everybody’s arousal is different, every body functions different neurologically ya know? A technique that worked for somebody 3 months ago may not work on this new person you’re talking to.

You’re not gonna have your first time or even 25th time & be 100% confident and know how to please someone. Speaking from personal experience, I’ve never had good sex, my experiences have always been “I lay there & be someone’s sex toy & they orgasm” & I think many might relate.

The point is, to the queer women who DO have sex: don’t be afraid to be honest. & this isn’t me like projecting my shitty sexual experiences, I’ve genuinely talked to other queer women who’ve had the same experiences as me & like I said we shouldn’t act like know it all’s.

We’re human, we fuck up, we adapt. Nobody’s gonna meet someone & hook up later & suddenly just fuck them effortlessly. No, there’s the time & effort to understand somebody’s body & mind & execute it & it’s not gonna be easy or perfect. So to cap on social media like you a-

-whole ass succubus going around fucking all these women, making all of them cum in 10 minutes, you’ve never had to communicate, you’re having sex for 10 hours is just unrealistic & puts this mindset that if we’re not doing that, there’s something wrong w/ us & it’s ridiculous.

Anyway; your experiences are valid (or no experiences at all!!) and please don’t listen to that locker room talk ok they’re cappin just to front on social media. Trust me, I’ve dealt w/ girls who do that and they’re bluffing. Don’t stress, take your time, & don’t compare urself

okay please know that I’m not trying to exclude anyone in this thread. I’m not purposely going out of my way to make anybody feel invalid. This thread isn’t exclusively to lesbians. I don’t have the language all the time to express things correctly. I’m sorry & I’m trying