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1./ Dear Gbenro,
Love of my life, my friend, my lover.
Olowo ori mi; I know this letter will come as a surprise to you. Its content and the fact of it. Nonetheless, I feel compelled to write it. For the record, as well as to express the gravity of the situation.
Love of my life, my friend, my lover.
Olowo ori mi; I know this letter will come as a surprise to you. Its content and the fact of it. Nonetheless, I feel compelled to write it. For the record, as well as to express the gravity of the situation.
2./ My love, how many years have we been together? Dating and married, a little under 20 years. God knows it has been a roller-coaster. People say life is not a bed of roses. But you know I always respond to them and say that it is a bed of roses.
3./ Roses are beautiful, they have a lovely perfume, but so many thorns which can prick the unwary gardener repeatedly. So much pleasure to offer, yet its treasure is well - guarded.
I also know from first - hand experience how difficult it is to grow them.
I also know from first - hand experience how difficult it is to grow them.
4./ This is why I maintain that life is a bed of roses. The good things in life come only to those willing to put in the work required.
My darling, I have put in the work to make us work. It hasn't been as difficult as some may suppose. Yes, some days are tougher than others
My darling, I have put in the work to make us work. It hasn't been as difficult as some may suppose. Yes, some days are tougher than others
5./ but most of the time you make it easy. Your love, kindness and unflinching support for me through my own life's challenges have buoyed me up even in my darkest days. I remember when Tiaraoluwa our 1st was stillborn. You held me and cried with me through it all.
6./ When I was ready to give up after the death of our 2nd, Abayomi a week after he was born premature, you were there. You took away all the sharps and watched over me like a mother eagle to make sure no harm came to me. I remember when we had our 3rd, Segun.
7./ How you stayed up night after night with me as we prayed and asked God to spare him after his premature birth; and God heard us. Segun is such a joy. His sisters are the light of my life and you, darling mi, you are the icing on the cake.
8./ Gbenro, you have pushed me to the limit. I love you. But I am getting tired of doing battle on my knees for our love. God Himself will testify in my favour that I have warred in prayer for us. I am getting tired of knowing that you are still doing the things
9./I expect you ought to have outgrown. I admit that it rarely happens these days. A distant part of my brain tries to understand your need for reaffirmation which sometimes makes your weakness overwhelm you. But this has got to stop.
I am aware of your current paramour Funto.
I am aware of your current paramour Funto.
10./ I wrote a letter to her. Asking her to leave you alone.
You’re surprised? I am surprised. You know I never lower myself to get involved with your affairs. But we are getting older and I am getting tired. I have stayed true to you. Not for want of offers.
You’re surprised? I am surprised. You know I never lower myself to get involved with your affairs. But we are getting older and I am getting tired. I have stayed true to you. Not for want of offers.
11./ Not because I haven't been tempted, but because that is who I am.
Regardless of all this, Gbenro, I am getting tired. In the next few years, I will be 50. Do I intend to do this for the rest of my life? No.
Will I continue to share you with other women? No.
Regardless of all this, Gbenro, I am getting tired. In the next few years, I will be 50. Do I intend to do this for the rest of my life? No.
Will I continue to share you with other women? No.
12./ Gbenro; I will walk away.
I don't want to see our children's eyes dim with the knowledge that their father is an idol with feet of clay. I love the way our girls love you. I love that they want a man that is at least half as good as Daddy.
I don't want to see our children's eyes dim with the knowledge that their father is an idol with feet of clay. I love the way our girls love you. I love that they want a man that is at least half as good as Daddy.
13./ I love that our son sees you as his hero. Some might say that I am setting them up for disappointment. I don’t think so. Real life will come at them fast enough when they are adults and better equipped to deal with it. For now, I am happy for them to hold you
14./ as the Gold Standard because truth be told, you my love are the Gold Standard. You are everything I could have asked for. My friend, lover, advisor and comfort.
You have worked assiduously to safeguard my heritage. Some will call it a thankless task
You have worked assiduously to safeguard my heritage. Some will call it a thankless task
15./ because of all the restrictions it has placed on you. I know some who have only a faint inkling and not the details who have sneered at you. Imagine if the know how much you have given up? Yet I know it is your inner strength and love for me that has kept you doing it.
16./ I know you have had career offers that could have made you leave my inheritance to paid professionals. But love has kept you. You have been a rock for me to lean on in my darkest days.
I remember when Mum had to undergo treatments for her cancer.
I remember when Mum had to undergo treatments for her cancer.
17./ You were the son she never had, visiting her religiously, listening to her reminiscing on the past. Rubbing her feet just the way she liked. Telling her jokes to lighten her dark days and singing her favourite hymns even though you cannot sing to save your life.
18./ What will my life have been without you? When she finally passed. When I was ready to quit on life, you pulled me back from the brink.
Yet I will give you up.
Gbenro, get rid of her.
Put your house in order. I will not do this past my 50th birthday.
Yet I will give you up.
Gbenro, get rid of her.
Put your house in order. I will not do this past my 50th birthday.
19./ I will leave you and I will damn the consequences.
With all my love,
Bisola
With all my love,
Bisola
