The cruelest divide in risk taking is between those individuals & households who know they are high risk, and those who assume their risk is “average”

The risk assessment described below is untenable for those with elderly or medically vulnerable folks in their primary circle https://twitter.com/medium/status/1335606093041573892

I don’t begrudge him his own harm reduction practices, and I’m glad they are trying to make consistently “safer” choices.

Its still somehow painful & exhausting for high risk households to be constantly framed as “hiding from life” or aftaid when it is basic life preservation

Its not “just random luck” if you die or become disabled if you have a condition that predisposes you to worse outcomes from Covid.

I’m not afraid. I’ve been far more afraid for my survival in the past.

I’m being prudent based on my reality

And yes, “this changes the kids”.

I kind of think it should change the kids.

My kids have learned over the years to let themselves be changed by trauma, sickness, loss. I’m incredibly proud of the way they have let life change them.

The “refusal to be changed” is one of the strangest toxic American cultural constructs.

If I have to make a choice between “never changing” or allowing myself to be changed - I’ll always, always choose the latter.

And as a parent- I see my job as supporting my kids as they negotiate challenging realities rather than as protecting them from being changed by life.

I’ve learned over the years, that cannot protect them from much at all.

Again, I don’t begrudge him his fairly reasonable risk assessments and harm reduction choices.

I just wish there were some consciousness that is an assessment based on privilege and relative distance to medical vulnerability and not merely “logic” or “choice”