your partner's insecurities are not yours to handle. if they have trust issues, that's on them to learn to overcome. if they're codependent or hyper-independent; you can't heal for them, and you shouldn't sacrifice yourself to bend over backwards for them. supporting them is one

thing, changing yourself and your boundaries to suit them? that's completely different. 100% my hardest lesson to learn was that I can't fix other people. my problems are mine and theirs are their's. support is nice and every once on awhile so is reassurance- but if you need it

25/8 l, it's a problem. which is also something I struggled with tbh. I didn't love myself enough to be able to reassure myself and I didn't trust myself to be there for me. it was toxic behaviour, but ik that now and it's smth I'm working on.

I went from codependency to hyper-independency and now I'm trying to find that happy medium of being self-sufficient but also letting people in and relying on others sometimes.