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Saints in public are sinners in private
Be a sinner in public & a saint in private
a thread
(how to catch a manipulator)
Be a sinner in public & a saint in private
a thread
(how to catch a manipulator)
There is one timeless strategy used for centuries to manipulate people
Most do it unconsciously
The Saint's Performance
Most do it unconsciously
The Saint's Performance
On some level we all do this
Showing our 'best selves' to the world. Our best moments. Our best manners
Here is one way you can easily spot a manipulator
The Finger Pointer
"Point one finger at others you'll see three pointing back at you"
Showing our 'best selves' to the world. Our best moments. Our best manners
Here is one way you can easily spot a manipulator
The Finger Pointer
"Point one finger at others you'll see three pointing back at you"
"Whoever smelt it delt it"
Humans have a natural tendency to point attention off of themselves when guilty
A person who frauds others in private
Will often be seen pointing fingers at frauds in public
A person who doesn't feel good enough
Will point out the flaws in others
Humans have a natural tendency to point attention off of themselves when guilty
A person who frauds others in private
Will often be seen pointing fingers at frauds in public
A person who doesn't feel good enough
Will point out the flaws in others
^ The key tell is
1) When they're irrationally invested in pointing to these people
2) When it's a pattern of behavior they engage in often
Pretty much confirms they themselves are the thing they point to
1) When they're irrationally invested in pointing to these people
2) When it's a pattern of behavior they engage in often
Pretty much confirms they themselves are the thing they point to
I've seen it in myself, if we look at ourselves we will find instances
I remember a few years back when I was just starting in business
I'd poke fun at successful marketers & explain why their offers weren't good enough
Truth was I was afraid my offers weren't good enough
I remember a few years back when I was just starting in business
I'd poke fun at successful marketers & explain why their offers weren't good enough
Truth was I was afraid my offers weren't good enough
The point of this thread is to point out this defaultIn public people are so warm
Yet in private to the people closest to them they'll be cold
Another human tendency to take things for granted once we've "won them over"
But this is a extremely backwards way of being
What do we notice with movie hero's people admire?
They're cold/neutral to the public & warm to those closest to them
If you have what you need in private, you're not bending over backwards to win the public
You're not "on the market" trying to get anything
They're cold/neutral to the public & warm to those closest to them
If you have what you need in private, you're not bending over backwards to win the public
You're not "on the market" trying to get anything
Overt public displays to draw attention & approval
Reveal behind the scenes may be very dark
Motivation = Motive
Why would a persons brain be motivated to exert that energy, going far beyond manners
Like guys operating mall kiosks
They probably need something from you
Reveal behind the scenes may be very dark
Motivation = Motive
Why would a persons brain be motivated to exert that energy, going far beyond manners
Like guys operating mall kiosks
They probably need something from you
This of course leads to misery
Constantly being on 'try-outs' or audition
Always a performance to put up
When instead we can value who we have, build our behind the scenes kingdom, resolve ourselves
Then we no longer 'need' our well-being from public approval
Constantly being on 'try-outs' or audition
Always a performance to put up
When instead we can value who we have, build our behind the scenes kingdom, resolve ourselves
Then we no longer 'need' our well-being from public approval
^ This is the secret in business, friendships relationships
Your best is in private, anyone not 'in' yet is the one missing out
Yet most give their best to the public
Then after collecting the money, after getting into a relationship
The charm turns off, they stop flirting
Your best is in private, anyone not 'in' yet is the one missing out
Yet most give their best to the public
Then after collecting the money, after getting into a relationship
The charm turns off, they stop flirting
- Invest your best into those that invest in you
- Questions things/people you've recently pointed fingers at
Ask why was it bothering?
When you're good in private, you won't bend for the public
Thank you for reading,
Cheers
Yous
- Questions things/people you've recently pointed fingers at
Ask why was it bothering?
When you're good in private, you won't bend for the public
Thank you for reading,
Cheers
Yous
Added Note“How you do anything is how you do everything”
The behavior in the thread will also show itself in goal achieving
The grass will always be greener on the other side
Doing the bare minimum behind the scenes
Then jumping to the next ‘audition’
....maybe this is why *radical group*
Masquerade as saints in public & ‘cancel’ people
Those they call ‘bad guys’ express qualities they lack & desire
& they themselves are guilty of much worse
“point 1 finger at others you’ll see 3 pointing back at you”
Masquerade as saints in public & ‘cancel’ people
Those they call ‘bad guys’ express qualities they lack & desire
& they themselves are guilty of much worse
“point 1 finger at others you’ll see 3 pointing back at you”
