1) There is a deep non-erotic intimacy that can exist among same-sex friendships that can’t & won’t exist among opposite-sex friendships.
We see this in the friendship of King David & Jonathan.
David says of Jonathan: “Your love to me was more wonderful than the love of women.”
We see this in the friendship of King David & Jonathan.
David says of Jonathan: “Your love to me was more wonderful than the love of women.”
2) There is a sisterhood which can/should exist among women and a brotherhood which can/should exist among men.
And the intimacy that exists WITHIN the sisterhood and brotherhood can be more intense than the intimacy between men and women. This is good.
And the intimacy that exists WITHIN the sisterhood and brotherhood can be more intense than the intimacy between men and women. This is good.
3) It’s sexual polarity that forms the strong bonds of marriage but it’s sexual homogeneity that forms the strong bonds of friendship.
Men need men who get the male world. Women need women who get the female world.
Men need men who get the male world. Women need women who get the female world.
4) This reality is difficult for us to grasp for a few reasons:
1st Modern culture has taught us to deny sex-distinctions in favor of sexual interchangeably.
In other words, we foolishly act as if men can relate to women in the same they relate to each other, and vice versa.
1st Modern culture has taught us to deny sex-distinctions in favor of sexual interchangeably.
In other words, we foolishly act as if men can relate to women in the same they relate to each other, and vice versa.
5) 2nd the sexual revolution, in an attempt to normalize the perverse, has eroticized all relationships.
David & Jonathan weren’t homosexuals.
They were dear friends. Men can be close. Very close. We can be like brothers. Even closer than brothers.
David & Jonathan weren’t homosexuals.
They were dear friends. Men can be close. Very close. We can be like brothers. Even closer than brothers.
6) 3rd, the social media age has redefined & diluted friendship to mean something closer to acquaintanceship.
Not only have we forgotten the intimacy of the brotherhood/sisterhood, but intimacy altogether.
Not only have we forgotten the intimacy of the brotherhood/sisterhood, but intimacy altogether.
7) We must recover the brotherhood and sisterhood if we are to recover sexual sanity.
BTW, this is why I’d never call my wife my best friend. What a sad statement! She is my wife. That is a unique intimacy.
BTW, this is why I’d never call my wife my best friend. What a sad statement! She is my wife. That is a unique intimacy.
8) For further reading, here are two related articles on which I've been stewing for a while; I highly recommend giving them a read:
https://tinyurl.com/y9p84w3a https://tinyurl.com/ybabob4k
https://tinyurl.com/y9p84w3a https://tinyurl.com/ybabob4k