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With New Years resolutions and Dry Jan approaching, I just wanna make a few points for friends/family of people who might wanna make sobriety a longer term thing (small thread)
Don’t expect them to have tell you all their reasons/give you any explanations. They don’t owe you that [no matter how close you are] just accept that they want to do this for them and get on with it, they don’t need a plethora of questions and you don’t need all the answers
It’s not weird to not want to drink. Don’t make it weird. Don’t point it out. Don’t make them feel uncomfortable for something relatively normal. It can already be hard, please don’t make it harder.
Similar point but try & just support it, don’t make shitty jokes about it. If you keep making jokes then you’re gonna do one of two things; a) peer pressure a friend to start drinking again when this was something they desperately wanted to quit b) stop them coming out altogether
Please please please treat them the same ffs. They still wanna have a good time and go out and enjoy themselves. They’ve quit drinking, not living. And DO NOT say anything like “I miss drunk you/when you used to drink” etc, (it feels like shit)
Embrace it! Ask their favourite soft drinks or AF drinks, if you’re getting a round in or having people over, bear them in mind don’t just ignore them because they’re not drinking...normalise it
Try not to give it a time stamp, don’t ask them if they’ll drink again or how long they’re intending on doing it for. Like I said, just get on with it, it shouldn’t really effect you in the slightest anyway tbqh (it REALLY is none of your business)
Most importantly, PLEASE don’t ask for exceptions. “Oh it’s my birthday! Have one for me” “you best drink at x event!” “One won’t hurt! I won’t tell!” just...don’t. If they wanted to drink they will. It’s really that simple.
After the shitshow that was 2020, just be good to each other in 2021 
