Your brain wires for safety from the moment you are born.

Your brain works in conjunction with your body to decide what is safe and unsafe in your environment during early brain development.

As you are testing the world, you are learning what is painful and what is safe.

Since all humans experience life differently and are born with different temperaments, our early protective programming is unique.

All of us have different measures for what we consider painful and safe.

From this early wiring, we experience our automatic reactions later in life.

It’s a beautiful mechanism meant to protect us from pain and keep us safe.

It makes sense that as an adult relationships feel unsafe if your early relationships were unsafe.

It makes sense that it is difficult to trust others or feel safe in the world.

It makes sense that you pull away from relationships abruptly as they start to feel too close.

Everything makes sense in the context of our life experiences when we explore them.

The beauty is that all of these responses were learned in response to our early environment, which means we can unlearn these responses to make them more reflective of our present environment.

It’s important to handle and untangle these with great care, always remembering that our early wiring was what kept us safe as children and helped us survive.

As we understand this, we can give ourselves compassion for the little beings that survived difficult life experiences.