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Why do so many virulently anti-LGBT public figures, both clergy and lay, turn out to be gay? Why are so many of the most vociferous moral watchdogs revealed as less than moral in private? I asked a few psychologists about that...
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In fact, I've been asking that of several psychologists over the past few months. Why? Because recently several people who "came out" as gay apologized to me privately, through Facebook messages, for their vicious attacks on LGBT people, on my LGBT ministry, and on me.
Also, occasionally, after being attacked either online or in print, I'm told by someone who knows the person, or has known the person, "He's gay, you know." Now, I have no way of knowing if this is true, but it happens often enough, that it makes one wonder what's going on.
Also, some of the most virulently anti-LGBT commentators in the Catholic church publicly describe themselves "ex-gays" or "recovering gays," etc., but hardly seem at peace with who they are. Rather, they seemed filled with anger, forever raging at LGBT people. Why is this?
Psychologists tell me that it's easier for someone who is struggling with interior feelings, or confusion, to direct it outward, rather than do the hard work of looking at themselves. Also, the anger they may feel about their own sexuality is more easily directed outward...
Another reason: fearing the "disorder" in their interior lives, they seek to impose "order" on the outside, on other people, and sometimes on themselves, and this causes a great internal conflict which leads again to anger, rage and the desire to attack others.
There is also, psychologists tell me, sometimes even a jealousy, again expressed as anger, of those who seem more "integrated" in their sexual lives than they are. Also, they are sometimes afraid of being "outed" and this increases feelings of fear and, often, anger.
Obviously, not everyone who attacks LGBT people, or is homophobic, is gay or even struggling with their own sexuality. But often the most virulent, the most vicious, the most angry, are dealing with something other than a mere intellectual or even moral situation.
In these situations, we can better understand their rage, and while still defending and advocating for LGBT people, we can pray that these attackers come to some peace about themselves and also recognize the immense harm that they are causing with their misplaced rage.
