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Some conserva-troll “university” is trying to trend by saying modern men aren’t masculine. Not going to name them, but it did get me thinking. One of the many, many problem with this type of ”masculinity“ is that it amounts to telling men to do half of what they’re capable of.
Push a lawnmower but not a vacuum. Cook on a grill in the yard but not on a stove in the kitchen. Learn to fight but not to dance. Tell your son you’re proud of him but not that you love him. Teach your son how to work with his hands but not your daughter. It‘s just dumb.
You’re manly if you know how to change your oil, but you’re less so if you know how to change oil and a diaper? It‘s better to be a good provider than a good provider who also dusts once in a while? Why do these people think doing half the stuff makes you twice the man?
A lot of the comments on the post talk about traditional roles. Why is it masculine to be unable to care for yourself? Bob is a really solid, ass-kicking guy, but what truly puts him over the top is that he doesn’t know how to use a dishwasher. Tony’s so cool he can’t even dust.
I cook and clean and change the baby and all that shit, but not because I’m some woke hyper-feminist deserving praise. I do housework because IT’S MY HOUSE. I clean and do laundry and stuff for the same reason I wipe my own ass.
I guess the reason I’m not traditionally masculine is I don’t want to live half a life. To me, it’s just sad to divvy all behaviors and emotions and activities into two camps and only let yourself enjoy one of them. Baseball’s fun to watch. So’s ballet.
I know there are much more serious problems with masculinity than men not letting themselves enjoy stuff, but I haven’t heard a lot of talk about this small shitty slice of the giant shitty pie that is toxic masculinity. It makes men celebrate lessness. It honors mediocrity.
Anyway, just some thoughts from a rando Twitter fish. Fuck masculinity, fuck conservatives and fuck anyone telling you doing less makes you more.
