It's so nuts to me that so many men get offended when I tell them they're not submissive and that they're a fetishist. Why is this so offensive to you? I really don't get it

You're telling me, the BDSM expert, where you fall within the wide expanse of BDSM when I've played with thousands of ppl before you and have way more play hours under my belt that you'll ever have? Your perspective is limited to only you alone

Just because you need a *very specific scenario* done in a *very specific way* to make you feel *a specific feeling* does not mean you are submissive. It means you are a fetishist. You might have feelings that mirror a submissive's at that *very specific point in time*…

…but if you need to control it under that specific minutiae, you are not a submissive. You are topping from the bottom. You are a fetishist. AND THAT'S OK, JUST STOP CALLING YOURSELF A SUBMISSIVE

"Mistress you would be so dominant if you wore a neon green onesie while chewing bubblegum and telling me that my penis smells like cheese, that would make me so submissive" bitch that isn't submission, that's playing Dominatrix Dress Up

If you were really submissive, you would shut the fuck up when I tell you to shut the fuck up regardless of what I am wearing, doing, or acting. GTFO. Submission is not specific. It is part of who you are innately. It does not require props, locations, and specific scenarios