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Making a thread of a few common fears of motherhood. Women are absolutely welcome to engage anyway they want, reassurances or anecdotes would help. Respond with your worries too!
Any man moralising will be blocked, this is not a build-a-wife thread, we don't care.
Any man moralising will be blocked, this is not a build-a-wife thread, we don't care.
Fear 1:
Commitment. Children are long term, how do you cope with the notion of a never ending project? Never ending stress? Never ending potential to fail? Relentless anxiety over losing them?
Commitment. Children are long term, how do you cope with the notion of a never ending project? Never ending stress? Never ending potential to fail? Relentless anxiety over losing them?
Fear 2:
Beauty. Motherhood can alter you permanently. How do you divest from attaching your identity to your youth and beauty? How do you deal with the very sudden transition and potential onslaught of insecurity?
Beauty. Motherhood can alter you permanently. How do you divest from attaching your identity to your youth and beauty? How do you deal with the very sudden transition and potential onslaught of insecurity?
Fear 3:
Infertility. What if your apathy towards motherhood is because there is no guarantee it could happen?
Infertility. What if your apathy towards motherhood is because there is no guarantee it could happen?
Fear 4:
Loss of identity. What if you lose yourself in your children and you don't want to? What if it's really important for you to retain an identity outside of your motherhood - how do you do this in a community that penalises this and presents such a woman as a bad mother?
Loss of identity. What if you lose yourself in your children and you don't want to? What if it's really important for you to retain an identity outside of your motherhood - how do you do this in a community that penalises this and presents such a woman as a bad mother?
Fear 5:
Pain. Giving birth takes you to the verge of death, what if you were afraid of death in this context? A death that leaves your child motherless?
Pain. Giving birth takes you to the verge of death, what if you were afraid of death in this context? A death that leaves your child motherless?
