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the people who are saying we “don’t get the struggles of coming out” to a whole community of lgbtq+ on twt are clearly not comprehending what we’re saying. for the last fucking time it has nothing to do with harper being in the closet. if you see yourself making the same-
-mistakes then you should really rethink the actions you take. i will not resolve to “unfollowing anyone who thinks this & that” but instead really want you guys to please try thinking about how abby felt throughout that movie and learn from it instead of defending harper. -
- all of us understand the struggles of coming out. everyone DOES have their own story. but harper was not only a shitty gf, she was also a shitty “friend”. regardless of her being in the closet, she never made abby feel welcome. she gaslighted her & acted in unjustifiable ways.-
-she claimed at one point that she was not hiding abby, but instead hiding herself. yet she forced abby back into the closet (which contradicts her statement) & all in all, she did not have to invite her in the first place. if she knew she would behave this way-
-she LITERALLY didn’t have to bring her along when abby clearly stated she did not wanna come. but harper lied to her till it was too late for abby to turn back. that was literally unnecessary if she knew she would behave that badly. imo, it goes to show how inconsiderate she is
- throughout the entirety of the movie, i practically felt the manipulation abby felt since i’ve been in both places. i understand both the struggles of coming out and the struggles of dating someone who isn’t out. there are right ways to handle it & the way harper did was not it
SO, even if you truly believe harper’s actions were caused by being in the closet (which i don’t agree with bc half of the things she did were bad regardless) BUT instead of defending her, you could learn from people who’ve also been in abby’s place & realize harper’s actions-
-were hurtful & toxic. you cannot claim that it wasn’t hurtful bc you can’t decide what people who’ve been in abby’s place feel. please consider that & learn from these mistakes instead of justifying them.
