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If you want to change someone's mind who holds an emotional position, read on. There are two ways, neither are guaranteed to work but they are the only two ways that will. – This is one of them, and generally the most effective in personal interactions.
Method #1 is emotional connection. You must connect emotionally to the reason they hold this position. This is called ‘Pacing’ in hypnosis. Where you emotionally agree with the persons position, so they gain trust with you on the topic.
The way that you do this is understanding the outcome that they are desiring. They are attached emotionally to the outcome, the methodology is how they think they are going to get there. If you directly attack the methodology, they will assume you are attacking the outcome.
For a ridiculous example, lets say getting children to school is the outcome, if you think there’s a better way to move kids to school, if you say remove the bus, they will assume you don’t want their kids going to school, rather than a better way to get there.
This can be achieved both through tone, body language and language itself. Online however this can only be done through language realistically, it means the success rate is much lower than real life, but still very doable with a high success rate.
While in the ‘pacing’ stage, it’s important to try and stay focused on outcomes, and use emotional and image words. This is so the subject can create their own reality with. Things like light, dark, stormy, cloudy, sunny, dirty, clean anything that they can project desires onto.
Remember you are trying to position yourself as agreeing with the emotional argument of the subject. Not solve any problems yet.
Once this is achieved you can now ‘lead’ someone emotionally to the methodology that you think is better for the outcome that they want.
Once this is achieved you can now ‘lead’ someone emotionally to the methodology that you think is better for the outcome that they want.
This can only happen once trust is built through pacing of the subject.
Once you have ‘paced’ and begun to ‘lead’ someone to the position you think is preferable, the method you do this is called framing.
Once you have ‘paced’ and begun to ‘lead’ someone to the position you think is preferable, the method you do this is called framing.
Where you have agreed emotionally to a position, now you have to frame the confines of the argument. This is the most important thing, whoever sets the frame, wins the argument.
If you can successfully set the frame of a debate, you will almost universally win. This is set by either creating the parameters that need to be met to agree to a win, or setting the boundaries of failure. Both are acceptable.
Once the frame has been set, you can now go through what’s called ‘anchoring’ or ‘set point’. Anchoring is where you put a target or an emotional negative or positive idea or point in which to measure something to.
Once you have an emotional connection, you’ve paced and starting to lead to outcomes, set the frame and created a setpoint. Now you can do what’s called ‘targetting’, where you have the ‘anchor’ or the ‘setpoint’ now you need to ‘target’ the position with the methodology you
Prescribe. This will lead the subject emotionally to the position you have created, and disarm the logical override they have created previously for the position. As the ‘target’ will be within the frame you set previously.
This is method #1.
This is method #1.
