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THINGS YOU MUST NOT DO WITH YOUR CHILD
1. Screaming
Some say its worst than beating, and leaves one with long-term mental and emotional scars. Remember, the Prophet ﷺ never raised his voice on a child, women, a friend or otherwise.
1. Screaming
Some say its worst than beating, and leaves one with long-term mental and emotional scars. Remember, the Prophet ﷺ never raised his voice on a child, women, a friend or otherwise.
2. Blaming
Blaming weakens relations, lowers self-esteem and prompts children to be on the defense. Anas b. Malik, then a 10 year old child, said: “I served the Prophet ﷺ for nine years. He never said about anything I did, why I did that, or about anything I didn’t do.
Blaming weakens relations, lowers self-esteem and prompts children to be on the defense. Anas b. Malik, then a 10 year old child, said: “I served the Prophet ﷺ for nine years. He never said about anything I did, why I did that, or about anything I didn’t do.
3. Nonstop Orders
Orders and instructions, without without first convincing or persuading, turn the child into a robot and this is not healthy. When growing up, they blindly emulate and obey any authority, regardless of its values.
Orders and instructions, without without first convincing or persuading, turn the child into a robot and this is not healthy. When growing up, they blindly emulate and obey any authority, regardless of its values.
4. Threatening
Threatening is used because it's a quick fix for resistance, but not a solution in the long run. Any attitude driven by (just) fear is hypocritical, and does not indicate real change.
Threatening is used because it's a quick fix for resistance, but not a solution in the long run. Any attitude driven by (just) fear is hypocritical, and does not indicate real change.
5. Sarcasm
Making fun of a child is an unacceptable behavior in Islam: “O you who believe let not a group scoff at another group… “(49:11). Mocking a child hurts their sense of worth and self-esteem.
Making fun of a child is an unacceptable behavior in Islam: “O you who believe let not a group scoff at another group… “(49:11). Mocking a child hurts their sense of worth and self-esteem.
6. Cursing
Cursing teaches the child cursing, which he will use against others, including relatives, friends and parents. The hadith says: "A believer is never a defamer nor a curser nor coarse nor obscene."
Cursing teaches the child cursing, which he will use against others, including relatives, friends and parents. The hadith says: "A believer is never a defamer nor a curser nor coarse nor obscene."
7. Comparing
Never compare your child to anyone, especially siblings. Comparing creates jealousy, anger and [puts them] on the defense.
Never compare your child to anyone, especially siblings. Comparing creates jealousy, anger and [puts them] on the defense.
8. Mistrust
Not giving the child the benefit of doubt weakens mutual trust, shuts Frank communication and hurts self confidence.
Not giving the child the benefit of doubt weakens mutual trust, shuts Frank communication and hurts self confidence.
9. Beating.
In most cases beating a child is about parents venting anger than wisely and calmly wanting to improve a behavior. Beating, similar to a pain killer is a temporary fix not a cure. It creates a coward personality, which will continue to do bad things.
In most cases beating a child is about parents venting anger than wisely and calmly wanting to improve a behavior. Beating, similar to a pain killer is a temporary fix not a cure. It creates a coward personality, which will continue to do bad things.
Points taken from Dr. Hesham Awadi's book "Children around prophet: how Muhammad SAW raised the companions".
