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Unrelated to the person saying it... calling trans men being erased, told to shut up, telling us our invisibility doesn’t matter and isn’t as bad as a form of oppression “twitter beef” is such a skewing of this constant shit.
There have been countless threads on how erasure leaves us dying in silence. That without bringing attention to the fact we have almost non existent resources for assault, fleeing abuse, support either emotionally or financially, staggering abuse and suicide statistics.
When we don’t talk about it people don’t know about it. And whenever we do talk about it there are people who will inevitably come along and tell us to shut up because “others have it worse.”
Just say you do not give a shit what happens to the most marginalized trans men and go. I want those resources there for others who aren’t here to talk about it.
I have been homeless, I’ve had to escape TO abusive places to get out of other more abusive places. Looking back it’s very clear to me that I was a target and made an easier one BECAUSE I was queer. At the time I just thought I was unlucky.
If every time trans men try and draw attention to these issues you are one of the people telling them to shut up and focus on others and not talk about it when there are already so few people talking about it I hope the fucking worst for you because I’m not above it.
Putting my own shitty life and lack of access to safe transition aside I have spent days at a time making calls to try and help trans guys find safe haven from abusive home lives only to be told by countless “LGBT” shelters that they do not take trans people.
Countless hours trying to ensure other trans guys (and trans people of other genders l) I worried about and cared about had access to resources and if they didn’t trying to make sure they got through to the next day so maybe we could try again.
There were people who “vanished.” And I have to hope it’s because they just didn’t want or need to contact me back because the alternative is infinitely more fuckin painful to contemplate.
And all while being sexually harassed and misgendered at jobs I was terrified to leave in case the next one was worse or wouldn’t hire me at all. And I’m LUCKY compared to a lot of people.
And as for representation? It’s good. It helps. But there are countless trans people all over trapped in areas that make accessibility and acceptance a nightmare. Visibility doesn’t always help. There are almost no therapists that will deal with the cross sections of
PTSD, childhood abuse, being transgender, understanding being transgender, sexual assault, transphobia and the trauma of it. A lot of us are walking wounded and doing our best on broken limbs and trying to help others at the same time.
So when you go out of your way as another trans person to make that harder for someone because you want to have some opinions
about oppression olympics and then act sneering and condescending about it that’s some gross shit.
about oppression olympics and then act sneering and condescending about it that’s some gross shit.
Yeah you fucking assholes absolutely live in my head rent free because I remember the count of people I lost touch after they were harassed for talking about the abuse they got for being trans and someone else was cavalier about being horrible to them.
I don’t know why the hell someone would laud that behavior or celebrate it or emulate it or laugh about it. It’s absolutely disgusting and unnecessary. It’s not something to be proud of. That behavior and attitude is why so many trans guys DON’T talk.
