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I’ve written at some length previously about how difficult this time of the year is for me
Usually, most of those difficulties arise because of the weather—cloudy / rainy skies, reduced sunlight (in terms of length / intensity), as well as shortened days
I know it sounds trite-
Usually, most of those difficulties arise because of the weather—cloudy / rainy skies, reduced sunlight (in terms of length / intensity), as well as shortened days
I know it sounds trite-
....and I’m sure a number of people over here may feel me on this one, but:
I don’t like the materialism and hustle & bustle of this season
I’m not good at receiving gifts
I guess this may be part of being a (former) Nice Guy, but I’ve always kinda struggled with ‘worthiness’
I don’t like the materialism and hustle & bustle of this season
I’m not good at receiving gifts
I guess this may be part of being a (former) Nice Guy, but I’ve always kinda struggled with ‘worthiness’
Like, I don’t necessarily feel ‘worthy’ of receiving a gift
Even if the gift is incredibly thoughtful, useful, and practical (which are the gifts I tend to enjoy the most)
What I mainly don’t like about this season is how gift-giving is pushed
I don’t want to receive a gift...
Even if the gift is incredibly thoughtful, useful, and practical (which are the gifts I tend to enjoy the most)
What I mainly don’t like about this season is how gift-giving is pushed
I don’t want to receive a gift...
....out of a sense of ‘obligation’
But then again, I also struggle with receiving gifts that aren’t given out of ‘obligation’
How could someone love me and think highly enough of me to give me something completely gratuitously?
See the paradox?
No matter the motivation...
But then again, I also struggle with receiving gifts that aren’t given out of ‘obligation’
How could someone love me and think highly enough of me to give me something completely gratuitously?
See the paradox?
No matter the motivation...
...for giving a gift, I will still struggle with receiving it
Like the Christmas song, ‘all I want for Christmas is you....’
I want those I love
Quality time with them
Quality time with my boys, to play and just be
Admittedly, a woman to spend time with would be nice, too
Like the Christmas song, ‘all I want for Christmas is you....’
I want those I love
Quality time with them
Quality time with my boys, to play and just be
Admittedly, a woman to spend time with would be nice, too
....but I can only control so much in that regard
I don’t want ‘stuff’ from people—rather, I just want them, their time, and their presence in my life
That said, part of overcoming the ‘Nice Guy’ conditioning is:
*Asking for what I want
—> Stating my needs, and acting on them
I don’t want ‘stuff’ from people—rather, I just want them, their time, and their presence in my life
That said, part of overcoming the ‘Nice Guy’ conditioning is:
*Asking for what I want
—> Stating my needs, and acting on them
In that vein, asking for good gifts from someone who wants to give something to me
*Accepting gifts
—> Realizing that yes, I am actually worthy and deserving, and to see genuine love and effort when it is there
*Accepting gifts
—> Realizing that yes, I am actually worthy and deserving, and to see genuine love and effort when it is there
I think that’s it on this topic, for now anyway
/fin
//thanks for reading
///ciao
/fin
//thanks for reading
///ciao
