In our region, when a boy is born the father (or grandfather) goes out to the street and gives some money as a way of celebration to kids in the street. Also peanuts are distributed immediately, mostly among kids of the Mohallah, but also to all those who come to share the

happiness. This is called 'Subat'. But the birth of a girl has to be a normal day, not meant for a celebration worthy of 'Subat' (though it's changing). My friend Dr. Imran celebrated birth of his daughter with 'Subat'. Breaking away the traditions about the social norms of a

child birth may seem trivial at surface. But these are ingrained in the social psyche and go on to form and reproduce the social structures and attitudes toward who should be valued and who shouldn't be.
The social and cultural norm of how the girl child is welcomed into this

world is the first glimpse of the world she has opened her eyes in. Patriarchy is not an abstract structure but it's in our everyday. The air we breathe filters through patriarchy. Yes, the wide and total structure of patriarchy will be dismantled by collective struggle but the

first steps towards that struggle will be taken by individuals. We live in an unequal world. But it is well in our power to change the world. We will leave this world a better place. And we will do that by changing our very intimate existences and lives by reversing the social

norms dictated by patriarchy.
. To a world without patriarchy and with equality where all humans are seen as bringing up new possibilities!