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Was talking to my therapist about how in lieu of the custody battle I’m hving + other stories I think a lot about the ineffectiveness of the judicial system.
Child services are carceral. Juvenile court and in turn domestic court is carceral. Everything is carceral.
Child services are carceral. Juvenile court and in turn domestic court is carceral. Everything is carceral.
It’s all designed to force you into respectability politics and struggle no matter the circumstances around the situation.
I get the reasoning for how it was designed as such, in colonizers mind it *appears* effective but the stats on victims lack of success navigating...
I get the reasoning for how it was designed as such, in colonizers mind it *appears* effective but the stats on victims lack of success navigating...
...shows otherwise.
If on a socio cultural level we were more engaged in conflict resolution and valued autonomy/agency/accountability etc I do think transformative justice can be leveraged in lieu of carceral institutions.
There’s certainly things that need improving ofc.
If on a socio cultural level we were more engaged in conflict resolution and valued autonomy/agency/accountability etc I do think transformative justice can be leveraged in lieu of carceral institutions.
There’s certainly things that need improving ofc.
But the justice systems carcerality revolves so much around property and money - if we gave every individual appropriate resources so much would shift and I imagine disputes would go differently with the removal of capitalism.
@/thotscholar has talked sooo much about this (please read boost share and monetarily donate) https://twitter.com/thotscholar/status/1169689166235484167
Children and/or marriage revolves around the idea of property and human entities being property. It’s never truly about the “best interest” of the child like they say: https://twitter.com/thotscholar/status/1169691097838305280
This whole process I’m going through is so unbelievably stressful on all parties including the child. We’re both struggling with debt, disorders of various kinds and reacting as such to preserve what we can. It’s endless.
And even when settling it’s never set in stone.
And even when settling it’s never set in stone.
For him, it’s money restraints, the ability to have a live in partner and visitation. For me it’s money restraints, relocation autonomy and keeping my daughter safe from any more incurred stress.
We could’ve navigated this differently had the need for preservation/control...
We could’ve navigated this differently had the need for preservation/control...
...been mitigated and our cultural values were different. If our bodies and right to resources were viewed differently.
The courts by nature make it get so ugly.
The courts by nature make it get so ugly.
Because here I was after everything teying to balance fairness and what’s best for the kid and both lawyers had implicit biases working cause of the GAL.
So even tho he and I were at an understanding for each others wants, the lawyers instigated inflammation of the situation.
So even tho he and I were at an understanding for each others wants, the lawyers instigated inflammation of the situation.
In the coparenting class we were mandated to take they tell you to emotionally divorce and allow room for both parents to grow and move. They promote harm reduction and transformative justice frameworks even tho they don’t say it.
But the court and lawyers abandon that.
But the court and lawyers abandon that.
