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i can't stop thinking about that tweet about one night stands from the other week. i know it was widely panned but i do think it ties into the wider, more acceptable convo around ghosting / rejection as inherently abusive rather than a normal part of the human experience
it's not cut and dry obviously but often when things don’t work out with someone we blame them rather than taking responsibility for our desires and accepting that a lot of it might have been projection / fantasy
that’s normal and it’s instinctive and it’s a learning curve to accept someone’s personhood when it differs from your idea of them, but to elevate that into the framework of abuse is wild
going into a one night stand *with* the intention of turning it into a relationship unbeknownst to the other person is genuinely manipulative. like, way more so than the other way around if you wanted to entertain the idea that it is at all.
the way a lot of straight women talk about dating these days makes them sound increasingly like pick up artists, who rightly "get in trouble at dinner parties". having your feelings hurt sucks but let go of the wheel and learn to take some responsibility for yourself!
