We carry our family of origin into every encounter. Sometimes they carry us.

A question to ponder:

What two traits did I inherit from my family that are an asset in my leadership? What two traits get in the way of my healthy leadership?

I'll post mine below.

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1a: A general 'you can do it' confidence that I can try and learn new things.
1b: a genuine selflessness to serve others.
2a: an inability to take seriously my own needs.
2b: a chronic over-functioning when people don't carry their fair share.

Another power tool from family of origin work:

what 'family propaganda' did you inherit that isn't actually true?

The truth is grander, more nuanced than you were told.

I'll post mine in the reply below.

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'Cusses are always right.' We never said it out loud, but we lived like it was true. It stunted my maturity - my arrogance that was covering insecurity.

And being wrong can be a wonderful gift.

Also, 'others have it worse.'

It is true, I have largely had an amazing life. But I have real needs, hurts etc that I neglect to take seriously because someone always has it worse than me.

It stunted my prayer life - I so rarely ask for help, pray for myself.