I am a survivor of coercive control. I lost my house because my husband took control of our bank accounts and refused to pay the mortgage. He got his tech savvy brother to hack into my emails and stuff to track who I was talking to. He had multiple affairs and blamed me for not..
Putting out enough. He would sexually assault me almost nightly, this continued into our separation where he refused to move out of the family home. He threatened to kill himself on the regular. Spread rumours about me so I didnât have anyone to confide in. He did all this..
And still, still, I donât want this to be criminalised. The existing laws didnât help me. The existing system cannot help me. The existing system can not change him. Please, please hear voices like mine. Overhaul the system then talk about addressing coercive control.
While police are still biased and racist and misogynistic, they make it unsafe for people like me to come to them. Police canât stop a person exerting control over another, not by exerting control. We need to teach news ways of being. Address old ways of being. Protect kids from
The shame that comes with having a criminalised parent. So often we hear âprotect the kidsâ but neither way protects them from the shame of having an abusive and dangerous parent or having a parent incarcerated.
The system isnât safe for offenders. Prison isnât rehabilitative. Prison isnât the environment tag nurtures change and personal growth and emotional maturity. Out of sight out of mind is the motto of the police and CJS.
âPrison doesnât disappear social problems, prison disappears human beingsâ -Angela Y Davis
If coercive control patterns are accurate, my ex will kill his next partner. If we know this, why arenât there any preemptive interventions happening to save this woman and her kids?
And the problem is that people still need live and to be traumatised by this shit for it to be criminalised. Damage is already fucken done. I donât know about any of you but Iâd rather address this before itâs caused harm.