Read on Twitter
CW: real talk, sissy, gender feels, hypnosis, possible transphobia?
So this one's not a story so much as a discussion of like, my outlook on genderfucky stuff and the way in which it interacts with your personal approach to sexuality and self-identity.
So this one's not a story so much as a discussion of like, my outlook on genderfucky stuff and the way in which it interacts with your personal approach to sexuality and self-identity.
Before I came out as trans, I was into a bunch of genderfucky kink stuff like sissy hypno, forced feminisation, BDSM genderplay, cross-dressing, that sort of thing (and it's one of the ways in which a lot of the transfemme dommes I chatted with knew I was an egg)
Extremely normal cis guy thing to do: persistently jack off to the idea of being "forcibly" turned into a slutty girlboy by dominant, muscular "real men," or even better, dominant, powerful women (or even even better, dominant, powerful "real" trans women)
There was certainly an aspect of impostor syndrome there. I told myself I couldn't be a "real" trans woman because "real" trans women wouldn't sexualise the idea of transition this much. I had to be some kind of fucked-up cis freak who was insultingly fetishizing trans women.
A lot of other trans people I've talked to - particularly (but not exclusively) trans women - have had this experience, worrying that sexual excitement over the idea of a more gender-affirming self shamefully disqualifies them from the mythic status of Being A Real Trans.
Now this is... largely just misogyny! It's shaming women (and, unfortunately, in the case of trans masc people, those designed by society as women) for sexual expression.
But it's also true that a lot of tropes in genderfucky kink are kind of... very problematic?
But it's also true that a lot of tropes in genderfucky kink are kind of... very problematic?
Not gonna fuck up your feed with all the slurs and bad ideas that get tossed around, especially in sissification and forcefem stuff written by cis people (or, ahem, "cis" people), but trust me, it can get BAD.
But I strongly believe the kinks themselves are not invalid or bad.
But I strongly believe the kinks themselves are not invalid or bad.
It is okay to sexualise your gender euphoria. It is okay to sexualise your transition. It is okay to be aroused by the changes happening to your body - and if they consent to share them with you in that context, it's okay to be aroused by the changes happening to others' bodies.
If you're a sexual person, it's okay to be sexually aroused by living in a body that feels progressively more and more in tune with who you are. Self-love is not an inherently dirty word, but trust me, it's okay to get it really, really, really fuckin' filthy now and then ;3
Did sissy hypno turn me into a cock-thirsty trans girl?
Nah. I was cock-thirsty before I came out as trans, and I I was having gender feels way before I discovered sissy hypno.
Is it fun to pretend sissy hypno MIGHT have turned me into a cock-thirsty trans girl?
HELL yes.
Nah. I was cock-thirsty before I came out as trans, and I I was having gender feels way before I discovered sissy hypno.
Is it fun to pretend sissy hypno MIGHT have turned me into a cock-thirsty trans girl?
HELL yes.
Oh no, a devious internet porn trend turned me into... someone who's much happier with her body, much more able to cope with the challenges her mental illnesses throw at her, much more in tune with her sexuality and much more comfortable interacting with other people!
Terrible.
Terrible.
I wrote a story yesterday about hypnosis not having the power to make you do anything you don't already want to do. All it gives you is an excuse, a way to pretend someone else made the choice for you.
Sissy hypno literally does not have the power to make you a trans girl.
Sissy hypno literally does not have the power to make you a trans girl.
Cause and effect get mixed up. People don't watch sissy hypno and become trans girls. Trans girls are watching sissy hypno BEFORE they have a self-realisation, because the idea of something that can take away their doubts and force them to do what they already want to do is HOT.
And it is totally okay for you to have genderfucky kinks whether you're trans or whether you're cis - although, if you think you're cis but you have a lot of genderfucky kinks, you should at least consider why that might be ;) - as long as you are respectful.
Respect is the cornerstone of all of this.
What's vital is an understanding that trans women are women, not just men pretending to be women for sexual kicks, and that trans men are men, not just confused women with a delusion.
What's vital is an understanding that trans women are women, not just men pretending to be women for sexual kicks, and that trans men are men, not just confused women with a delusion.
Genderfucky kinks are good. They are very good. They are horny as fuck.
The problem is not and never was the kinks themselves. The problem is a lack of respect and consideration, which isn't by any means exclusive to the genderfucky kink scene.
The problem is not and never was the kinks themselves. The problem is a lack of respect and consideration, which isn't by any means exclusive to the genderfucky kink scene.
If you're trans femme and you jack off to sissy hypno, you're valid.
Hell, if you're trans masc and you jack off to sissy hypno, you're not only valid but also extremely powerful.
Hell, if you're trans masc and you jack off to sissy hypno, you're not only valid but also extremely powerful.
