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A thread on Love-
Love is about supporting a person’s liberation and expansion. It seeks to create and support what makes the person we love happy. It’s not about ownership (which is anxiety driven). It’s about working to dismantle the systems that harm them
Love is about supporting a person’s liberation and expansion. It seeks to create and support what makes the person we love happy. It’s not about ownership (which is anxiety driven). It’s about working to dismantle the systems that harm them
Love is empowerment, not keeping an Other small so you feel safe. Causing suffering is never an act of loving. Capitalism has seeped into our relationships, and has distorted how we try to love. It has taught us that love is only about us & what we can get out of a relationship
The trap is that a relationship can provide so much lust, fun, and attention; and can have the investment of a lot of time, and to many that will feel like love.
Cathexis is to care/desire, but only to limits of your comfort. To cathect means to support them as long as their needs dnt make you uncomfortable. Setting limits to keep you from getting anxious or having to grow yourself.
Cathecting is often what we do with our pets, we care for them, but demand they live within our limits of comfort. We do not support their full actualization
Love demands that we grow, and support the growth and needs of the Other, will this will often make us anxious. That’s how we know we love.
