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*Thread* - Transform Weakness into Strength
Just answer these 2 questions
Just answer these 2 questions
To be honest
There's a low probability of overcoming certain lifelong weaknesses
Weaknesses are often strengths playing the wrong position
Ask: "What is this behavior doing for me?"
There's a low probability of overcoming certain lifelong weaknesses
Weaknesses are often strengths playing the wrong position
Ask: "What is this behavior doing for me?"
All things have trade off's
Mind/body is incredibly intelligent
Adaptations & tendencies serve you in some way
Example: Lack of Commitment
"What is this behavior doing for me?"
Mind/body is incredibly intelligent
Adaptations & tendencies serve you in some way
Example: Lack of Commitment
"What is this behavior doing for me?"
- Gives you control
Not putting trust into a person or cause means you stay in full control
- More freedom
No obligations
- Less worry
No expectation to meet, no risk of losing something when you care about nothing
Not putting trust into a person or cause means you stay in full control
- More freedom
No obligations
- Less worry
No expectation to meet, no risk of losing something when you care about nothing
Next we identify the trade-off
"What is this costing me?"
- Lack of certainty
Never building in a direction, with people, with anything. Everything feels temporary & uncertain
- Lack of deep connections
Always keeping distance to maintain control & not risk being hurt
"What is this costing me?"
- Lack of certainty
Never building in a direction, with people, with anything. Everything feels temporary & uncertain
- Lack of deep connections
Always keeping distance to maintain control & not risk being hurt
- Lack of results
Never allowing time for what you sow to grow & be reaped
^ there's a general few points for our example
Leaning too far in the other direction would be over commitment (neediness)
Which we also don't want, it has it's own problems
To restore balance.....
Never allowing time for what you sow to grow & be reaped
^ there's a general few points for our example
Leaning too far in the other direction would be over commitment (neediness)
Which we also don't want, it has it's own problems
To restore balance.....
1) Keep the current behaviors
2) While consciously incorporating some out of character ones
Revealed in the "what is this costing me question"
3) Put self in a aligned position
2) While consciously incorporating some out of character ones
Revealed in the "what is this costing me question"
3) Put self in a aligned position
We grow our character by doing things out of character
Darkness is just the absence of light
You don't need to 'fix' the darkness
Create/Add in the new light behaviors
To bring back the balance
Too much in either direction is either blinding light or pitch black darkness
Darkness is just the absence of light
You don't need to 'fix' the darkness
Create/Add in the new light behaviors
To bring back the balance
Too much in either direction is either blinding light or pitch black darkness
Playing in Position
Lacking commitment is actually a stronger ability to handle uncertainty
They do well in roles that:
- Schedule 90% in their control
- Project to project type work, no long term commitments
Lacking commitment is actually a stronger ability to handle uncertainty
They do well in roles that:
- Schedule 90% in their control
- Project to project type work, no long term commitments
- No customers, product delivery, operations to run
- Partial flexible commitment
For them it's a perfect balance of it's not entirely on them because then they won't commit
But the client is also not 100% in control of their schedule either
- Partial flexible commitment
For them it's a perfect balance of it's not entirely on them because then they won't commit
But the client is also not 100% in control of their schedule either
In Short:
Playing a position aligned to default tendencies
While working to incorporate new habits to restore balance
Is much more effective than wrestling with your default tendencies
Trying to solve them and do things that are just not for you
Playing a position aligned to default tendencies
While working to incorporate new habits to restore balance
Is much more effective than wrestling with your default tendencies
Trying to solve them and do things that are just not for you
Place a monkey in the ocean & a fish in a tree
Both will behave neurotically
"Know thyself"
Discipline, Willpower, Work Ethic
It's great. Everyone talks about it
but you free up bandwidth to take on discomfort
When your default is low in discomfort
aka playing your position
Both will behave neurotically
"Know thyself"
Discipline, Willpower, Work Ethic
It's great. Everyone talks about it
but you free up bandwidth to take on discomfort
When your default is low in discomfort
aka playing your position
So try this for yourself
Ask those two questions when looking at your tendencies
"What is this doing for me?"
"What is this costing me?"
Thank you for reading,
Cheers
- Yous
Ask those two questions when looking at your tendencies
"What is this doing for me?"
"What is this costing me?"
Thank you for reading,
Cheers
- Yous
