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One of my BEST friends phoned me on Sunday. We've been close and supported each other through life transitions for at least a solid decade.
We often talk over phone or internet, due to them living in CA, but usually we chat at midnight on the east coast, latest. Not 3 am.
We often talk over phone or internet, due to them living in CA, but usually we chat at midnight on the east coast, latest. Not 3 am.
I feared the worst, I am not gonna lie, but I swallowed and picked up the accursed phone.
(I was awake at 3 am anyway, because this is a pandemic and I worry for people around the world, so I am on a screwy sleep schedule.)
(I was awake at 3 am anyway, because this is a pandemic and I worry for people around the world, so I am on a screwy sleep schedule.)
My friend, who has seen me through so much and shared so much with me over the past 10+ years, called me to cry and apologize.
Because they got married in a private, 4-person ceremony on Sunday, and they didn't tell me beforehand. I wasn't invited.
Because they got married in a private, 4-person ceremony on Sunday, and they didn't tell me beforehand. I wasn't invited.
They were terrified to tell anyone about their wedding (to longtime love of their life, who is a great person). They got married on Sunday.
They told only parent and sibling in case someone insisted on traveling in the middle of this GD pandemic in order to attend the event.
They told only parent and sibling in case someone insisted on traveling in the middle of this GD pandemic in order to attend the event.
I FUCKING LOVE MY FRIEND AND I AM SO GLAD THEY DID NOT HAVE A BIG WEDDING EVENT. So glad. I cried tears of joy at this news, and told them I loved them and if I had been invited I would have been pissed.
I'm so sad that they didn't have the kind of wedding they deserve, and that I couldn't be there.
But they needed to get married for both of them to have hlth insurance. And they needed their wedding to not get more people sick.
So they didn't tell anyone beforehand. I approve.
But they needed to get married for both of them to have hlth insurance. And they needed their wedding to not get more people sick.
So they didn't tell anyone beforehand. I approve.
This is 2020. This is a pandemic. There are MILLIONS of cases of #covid19 just in the USA. Almost 250,000 DEAD from this plague, just in this country, AND OVER 1 MILLION in the world. That we know of.
And it is not done.
And it is not done.
I am fucking THRILLED that my best friends are not having in-person wedding events right now, and I think we should do EVERYTHING possible to normalize that.
EVERYTHING POSSIBLE.
If we don't normalize changing our plans and our lives for this plague? It will never be done.
EVERYTHING POSSIBLE.
If we don't normalize changing our plans and our lives for this plague? It will never be done.
This is why parents holding parties for children enrages me. This is why college students hosting secret keggers makes me apoplectic.
Because what we know, we absolutely KNOW, is that this disease loves a good party. It's a killer at social events. Life (and death) of the party.
Because what we know, we absolutely KNOW, is that this disease loves a good party. It's a killer at social events. Life (and death) of the party.
And I just. I want people to live through this. I want us all to survive.
I want my friends to go through weddings and births and graduations and EVERYTHING. Even funerals, eventually.
I want these things to be possible next year, and the year after, and in the decades to come.
I want my friends to go through weddings and births and graduations and EVERYTHING. Even funerals, eventually.
I want these things to be possible next year, and the year after, and in the decades to come.
I don't want to fit all of the weddings and funerals into 2020. I just ... I don't think I can handle that. Cannot compute.
Please don't.
I fucking love weddings.
Don't invite me to your wedding.
Don't invite anyone.
I'm fucking begging you.
Please don't.
I fucking love weddings.
Don't invite me to your wedding.
Don't invite anyone.
I'm fucking begging you.
I have friends around the world. Many of you are awake and reading this. I love you all. I miss you all. And I hope to see you again. In some future year, when it is safe. When we know how to be safe.
Until then, please do your best to take care of yourselves and others? Please.
Until then, please do your best to take care of yourselves and others? Please.
Because you know what is worse than missing the wedding of one of my favorite people on the planet?
Missing their funeral a few weeks or months later, as well.
Missing their funeral a few weeks or months later, as well.
So yeah. That's why I am crying, tonight.
Because not everyone is willing to cancel their parties in order to save lives.
Please do everything possible to stay safe, people. Please keep each other healthy. Please.
Because not everyone is willing to cancel their parties in order to save lives.
Please do everything possible to stay safe, people. Please keep each other healthy. Please.
