Unpopular opinion:

Men are more likely to give away husband privileges reserved for the marriage covenant than women are to give away wife privileges.

This is a boundaries issue that affects both parties heavily, leading to fewer marriages and worse break-ups.

Men are not taught to uphold boundaries because they aren't told how they will protect them in the long run.

I'm not just talking physical boundaries

But provisional, protective, financial, and emotional boundaries.

Men have been brought up to respect, protect, provide, and love their woman in relationships whatever the cost

But in ways that only a husband should.

This is why you see men completely destroyed after a break-up.

He isn't just losing his woman, he's losing the woman he treated as the only woman in the world, the one he loved and cared for as his wife.

(This happens to women as well post break-up)

"That could be avoided if they got married."

Yes, absolutely. That's why couples need to get married younger and sooner than they're taught

But when men don't have boundaries in place, the woman has no incentive to marry the man because she gets everything she needs prematurely

Of course, women need to put up boundaries to prevent men from having no incentive to marry her as well.

Women are taught this much more than men are, however, a fundamental flaw still exists because many are told the only boundaries they need are physical ones.

Within a relationship, you need emotional boundaries, spiritual boundaries, even financial boundaries

Without those, the couple becomes married without actually marrying.

The lack of healthy boundaries creates premature soul ties and bonds that are not easily broken.

Take moving in together before getting married for example.

At that point, what incentive do you have to get married other than to legalize your commitment?

Without boundaries, marriage is only "a piece of paper" and nothing more.

With boundaries, you can look at the person you love, and confidently say

"I am going to marry you."

It's not just the desire to marry, but the incentive to marry. There is a goal in mind, something worth gaining.

Because you had to set aside the temporal fulfillment of your desires because the boundaries didn't allow certain behavior

The long term fulfillment increases because now you have what you need as opposed to what you want.

Without those boundaries, a break-up leaves a tear in their soul worse than any other.

They're having their soul ripped in two because their soul was joined with their lover.

Marriage protects that bond beyond being a piece of paper.

In short, get married already.

Your soul and their soul deserves it.