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I’m seeing that some very dear friends of mine have lost their jobs recently. 
As someone who’s experienced sudden job loss before, here are a few things I wish people who loved me had done differently. Consider taking these into account while loving your person through this.
As someone who’s experienced sudden job loss before, here are a few things I wish people who loved me had done differently. Consider taking these into account while loving your person through this.
1.Let them grieve: losing a job is not only painful but in a lot of ways can induce PTSD of sorts. Pls let your person go through the various stages of shock, sadness, anger and despair without rushing them.
2.Remember that emotions come in waves. It may not even fully hit your person until 3 months AFTER the loss. So just because YOU’VE reconciled w/ it, doesn’t mean they have. Again- don’t rush them.
3.Refrain from using clichés: “everything happens for a reason.” “God knows what he’s doing.” “You’ll bounce back.” These things may be true, but keep it to yourself for a sec. Don’t rush them.
4.Remind them it’s ok to be afraid: the future is uncertain. This may not be the end for your person but it probably sure does feel like it. Hearing from someone who loves you that your fear is valid, in itself can work wonders.
5.Know when to be quiet. If you don’t know what to say- then zip it lol. Empathy goes so far. “I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine how hard that is for you.” Don’t pretend to have all the answers for your person right now.
6.Encourage them to file for unemployment. Immediately. AND REMIND THEM THEY HAVE NOTHING TO BE EMBARRASSED ABOUT IN DOING SO.
7.If your person has been doing their job forever, they may need to be reminded that what they do is NOT who they are. They still have value. But feel them out before you encroach with suggestions. Just keep this in mind.
But feel them out before you encroach with suggestions. Just keep this in mind.
