the ken and dearra situations proves what I’ve talked about for a while now.

rich or poor, when men serve no higher, intentionally crafted purpose, they give up on their values and default back to what they were born with - survival and sex.

a man that doesnt cheat today could become a man that cheats tomorrow and vice versa.

what determines this is a man’s values, his purpose, and his commitment to those two things.

if any of those three pillars are shaky, trouble looms.

women in relationships don’t know this so although things may appear great, they never pick up on the signs that their man is losing, or has lost his essence.

men remain faithful to women not b/c of her looks, her pockets, or what she can do in the bed or kitchen.

men remain faithful to women that can consistently keep him true to his values and purpose.

yet, most women don’t know what their man’s values & higher purpose are...

relationships ultimately fail because:

1) men don’t have values or a purpose
2) men commit to women that don’t compliment their values/purpose
3) women screen or vet men the wrong way
4) women don’t provide the actual value that keep men committed

the above four problems can be solved if both men AND women understand that relationships are about giving with no expectations in return.

you should want a relationship because of what you can do for the person, not what they can do for you.