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1/ As I've continued my #LowMorale work, I'm often asked a version of the following question: "How do I [resist form of abuse/neglect]/say no when [something bad might happen to me]?"
2/I am not a proponent of insubordination. I *am* a proponent of self-advocacy. Show up for yourelf, no matter what. In times of moral dilemma, we center what the powerful may do to us. But, what if they don't do The Thing? You would never know, because you didn't say anything.
3/When it comes to abuse & neglect, silence is what abusers are hoping for. And it lets them know that they can continue their actions. Someone is abusing you. You must find a way to stand up. The mental and emotional impacts are worsened. The self-talk gets worse.
4/The self-loathing sets in. So, stand up for yourself, no matter what. Do that boundary work. It will feel strange. You will get it wrong. You will have to reset many times.
5/Something bad *may* happen to you. Or not. But either way, you will be healthier for it, knowing that whatever The Thing is, you did all you could to Let 'Em Know. #MoralCourage is required. I invoke, again the words of Audre Lorde:
and when we speak we are afraid
our words will not be heard
nor welcomed
but when we are silent
we are still afraid
So it is better to speak
remembering
we were never meant to survive. "A Litany for Survival" /END
our words will not be heard
nor welcomed
but when we are silent
we are still afraid
So it is better to speak
remembering
we were never meant to survive. "A Litany for Survival" /END
