I think the discourse around consent re: casual sex vs relationships is really interesting bc the person who posted that never said it was sexual assault if someone did that. They said that having sex under the pretense of a possible relationship when you know you don’t want one

Is not consensual. And... they’re... right. If someone knows you expect a relationship and that’s why you’re having sex with them, and they know FULL well they don’t want a relationship, you are violating consent bc they would have made a different choice had you been honest

It’s not SA but it’s not consensual either.

I think our culture is obsessed with boundaries to a very unhealthy level bc we start to refuse to acknowledge that actually no, it’s not ok for people to do whatever they want to us and invoke “freedom” or “boundaries” or “happiness” when they do it

Ah, already getting angry messages from people weaponizing their trauma to pretend like I compared taking someone’s consent away to violent rape

I hate our culture

Some behaviors are not just “shitty” they are harmful and manipulative! We have really flipped the script to make it seem like people who want to be treated well are the manipulative ones and people who want to do whatever they want whenever they want are the “healthy” ones