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I see a few people fighting the "not good enough" bug right now, so I wanted to dip into research and see what's been recommended to help fight this feeling.
Because no matter how many times I say "But you are" the internal dialogue is too strong to actually believe it
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Because no matter how many times I say "But you are" the internal dialogue is too strong to actually believe it
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The reason we say we're not enough to ourselves is that socially (and through trauma) we're told to play ourselves and our accomplishments down. While you don't want to appear boastful, you're also sending a signal to yourself "I am not worth boasting about"
After many years, we continue that dialogue that we have heard others say so many times as a way to protect ourselves. Before someone says "you're not good enough" why don't I say that to myself and make myself work harder? But 'enough' is a vague term
'Enough' of what? 'Enough' for whom? That's why it helps to sit down and set concrete goals of what "enough" means to you. This way it's not some unreachable thing, but rather a concrete thing you can remind yourself about.
Ask yourself, what is your "enough" today. Is it getting out of bed? Brushing your teeth? Making it through the workday? Tomorrow and yesterday's enough have nothing to with right now. Tomorrow you can define another "enough" and then move towards that slowly, with forgiveness.
Finally, just a reminder, you are more than any one mistake, you are more than how much you make, how many likes you get. Remind yourself what other qualities you know you have beyond what you're judging yourself for.
I wanted to write this out for myself today. I hope it helps.
I wanted to write this out for myself today. I hope it helps.
