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Time distortion can manifest very differently for different #ADHD brains. Story time:
One of my good friends also has ADHD.
I tend to think we never have enough time. Less than an hour for me = no time to accomplish anything.
He tends to think most things take 20 mins. /1
One of my good friends also has ADHD.
I tend to think we never have enough time. Less than an hour for me = no time to accomplish anything.
He tends to think most things take 20 mins. /1
Neither one of us quite realized how strongly we had this on board until he started helping me regularly in the evenings with the many dos involved in settling into my new house. /2
Early attempts at working together ranged from hilarious to frustrating. We we were so confused by one another.
I would argue to put things off because a few hours on a Monday evening felt like *not enough time* and I could already feel Tuesday's client and tasks looming. /3
I would argue to put things off because a few hours on a Monday evening felt like *not enough time* and I could already feel Tuesday's client and tasks looming. /3
He would argue that we had plenty of time; with the belief that we could run several errands, assemble a new piece of furniture, and work on another odd task or two with the few hours we had. /4
Depending on whose voice was stronger that day, our early work sessions either resulted in a lot of wasted time with him convincing me we could, in fact, do *something* or a frenzied race to finish much later into the evening than we had planned, robbing us both of sleep. /5
The really cool thing is that as time has gone on, we have both gotten better at noticing when our particular flavor of time distortion is showing up both for ourselves and each other. /6
For myself, I've noticed that I capitalize on time frames of under an hour much more frequently than I used to. This particular tweet thread is brought to you by 45 minutes between client sessions, in fact. /7
He has started to notice several areas in his life that he assumed took *no time*. For example, he gets to bed at a much better time now that he realizes the act of going to bed involves several steps that take time. /8
The moral of the story is twofold:
1. #ADHD manifestation is unique. There are shared ADHD experiences for sure, but there are no *typical* ones. /9
2. This work we did together, work that lead to better outcomes for each of us around managing time, was awareness work. /9
1. #ADHD manifestation is unique. There are shared ADHD experiences for sure, but there are no *typical* ones. /9
2. This work we did together, work that lead to better outcomes for each of us around managing time, was awareness work. /9
Our vastly different experiences with time gave each of us new context in which to build awareness around our own ADHD experience of time.
Awareness work is key but you don't have to do this work alone or with a coach. Sometimes, a helpful buddy is just the right support. 10/10
Awareness work is key but you don't have to do this work alone or with a coach. Sometimes, a helpful buddy is just the right support. 10/10