Siri, show me how to make a useful concept to guide ethical sex totally and utterly worthless https://twitter.com/lethal_heroine/status/1326715575435988992

It is very hard to teach people that mutual consent is a baseline for ethical sex if you dilute it like this. Posts like this are actively harmful to good sex-positive sexual culture and education.

It’s also important to ask how this would be adjudicated: 1) Who’s consent was violated? Why should the expectations of the person interested in the ltr be superordinated as the metric of ethical sex?

2) How would the hypothetical be distinguishable from a scenario where party A and B both thought they wanted a LTR, and then, after sex, party A decided they didn’t like it and wanted it to never repeat. Remember: a critical aspect of consent is that it can be withdrawn.

There is, by the way, an excellent chapter on when and how deception vitiates consent in @fischermyn’s excellent *Screw Consent.* I’d urge the OP to read it before tweeting another terrible take like this or ruining any more dinner parties.

To add to (2) above, I have withdrawn my consent *during sex* because I didn’t like what was happening. This certainly meant mine and his expectations diverged: he commenced sex believing it would conclude. It did not. By withdrawing my consent, did I vitiate his?