I am tired of the type of less explicit transphobia where cis people see transness as a Last Resort to be tried only after we've tried leaning into gender, being gender non-conforming, losing weight, treating our depression, doing yoga, and saying fifty Hail Marys

The kind of allyship that "respects our pronouns" but would rather a thousand trans kids go through the wrong puberty rather than a single cis kid call themself trans for a year before changing their mind

The type of cis ally that would rather all of us go through the years of depression that I did than a single cis person have to stop and ask themself "wait, AM I cis?" for even a moment

I once had a cis parent ask me how to talk to their trans kid about the fact that hormones "wouldn't fix everything"

I had to explain that when I asked my doctor for depression medication I expected it to help my depression, not my knee pain, & that doesn't make the medicine bad

I know trans people who have been told they should only decide if they're trans once they've lost weight. Autistic trans people are told they can't address their transness until their autism is "cured" (see: link) https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/11/the-link-between-autism-and-trans-identity/507509/

How many of our "allies" see our existence--our revolutionary and often joyful existence--treated as the "last vaguely acceptable to suicide, I guess"? How many of us have had to work through that ourselves to find our truth? I know I fucking did.

This is getting RTd a lot so, hey, cis people, tread gently because I've had An Evening on here and have a block list that hungers

"Yes queen! Live your truth! Just don't you dare try calling yourself trans before you're at a point where you're terrified you're too old to transition and don't you try to help younger trans people find themselves or I'll call you a radical cult leader!"