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Heyyy white women. I know a lot of you probably have a question that you are too afraid to ask because you know something's off but it's bothering you but you don't want to be That white woman, right?
Yeah -- why are we only talking about how white women voted and not white men?
Yeah -- why are we only talking about how white women voted and not white men?
First of all, don't worry, I have credentials for talking about white women! I am engaged to one! My dad's whole side of the family is white; like, owns-a-construction-company-in-Massachusetts-called-Ackles-Steel-and-Iron white.
So yeah, this is probably bothersome!
So yeah, this is probably bothersome!
I know it probably feels like you are being singled out for your gender; the fact that we are talking about white women and not white men when they voted similarly seems wrong somehow. Why not just "white people"? Why all this focus on white women?
There's a lot of reasons why, and I won't pretend to step outside my lane and become a humanities scholar or a historian, but it boils down to this: white women keep promising other marginalized groups that we are all in this together, and then keep performing the opposite.
When we're creating identity groups, talking about underrepresentation, discussing systemic abuses of power, there is no shortage of white women talking about how they too feel this pain and pressure. But when we show up to vote or fight brutality, that seems to disappear.
And I know you're thinking, but wait, those aren't the same white women! I voted for Biden.
But we're asking you to talk to your family members who didn't. You want to show up and do the work: this is the work.
White women listen to white women.
But we're asking you to talk to your family members who didn't. You want to show up and do the work: this is the work.
White women listen to white women.
And if you aren't in a place where you can talk to those people in your family without it being distressing, instead of saying, "I guess I won't talk to them about it", think about what you need in order to get to a place where you can.
All this to say, why aren't we talking about white men, too?
Because we have written them off. They, as a class, have never pretended not to hate us.
White women keep wanting to liberate themselves without liberating others, and it doesn't work like that.
Because we have written them off. They, as a class, have never pretended not to hate us.
White women keep wanting to liberate themselves without liberating others, and it doesn't work like that.
So if you see someone talking about white women and what they need to do better and find yourself getting defensive and find the old flames of white feminism being stoked -- I get it, and I see you, but that isn't what this is about.
This is about the white women's movement being all bark and no bite, and all we are asking you to do is start biting. 
