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The big problem with the way becoming disabled is understood by nondisabled people is that they don't grasp newly disabled people grieve. For who they were, who they thought they would be & who they think they'll become. So many get stuck as denial, which is considered acceptance
Denial isn't healthy, & just doing everything they used to do or pushing themselves to achieve is still denial if the reasoning behind it isn't driven through acceptance.
Real acceptance is acknowledging the new you & learning to love it. Living so you live as long as possible.
Real acceptance is acknowledging the new you & learning to love it. Living so you live as long as possible.
I remember being stuck at denial, thinking it was acceptance. I did so much to appear not to be "disabled" & I'm still paying the price. Once I really got to acceptance I realised the truth. You can be happy with the new you & embrace your new body.
Yet we never see this truth because our media can't believe that people achieve acceptance & embrace being disabled. Instead they see the struggle to overcome as the pinnacle of the journey. Distorts the truth of our experience & hurts those who gain impairment.
A big element of the journey that's ignored or misunderstood is anger. You start angry at what's happened & the limitations you now face. Once you reach acceptance you can feel the anger grow as you now know what you could do if society let you. I know my anger has grown with age
