As someone who has been pro dialogue since #EndSARS protest started, to be honest now I’m not sure anymore. For 3 reasons:

1. Seizure of passport by immigration
2. Freezing of accounts by CBN
3. Denial of wrongdoing

(S)He that must come to equity, must do so with clean hands!

It is perfectly fine for Gov. Sanwo-Olu to present the damage done to Lagos to Mr. President, however such a report is not complete without a full report on the lives lost during the protests, especially on the night of Oct. 20th. One thing our political class must understand is

that, there is no premium that can ever be placed on human lives. Buses can be replaced, houses can be rebuilt and economies can recover. There’s however no way humanly possible to replace Jimoh and countless others who died or are still missing. These are truths that we

must speak, regardless of the consequences. There are always two sides to politics and policy. 1. Functionality. This is the ability of govt. to get things done 2. Legitimacy - this is the validation given by the people to their govt. to get things done. No matter how functional

a govt. wants to be, without the validation of the people, it losses social capital. Serious Social capital has been eroded in the last month, regaining it will take a very long time but everything that has been done so far is further depleting the account. It’s hard for healing

to take place without admittance. Those who have had a bad break-up will understand this. And without truth, the road to reconciliation becomes a long and bumpy one. As a nation, we have mastered the art of sweeping injustice under the carpet. From the civil war, to Zaria & Asaba

we hardly confront our demons. Germany confronted and owned Hitler narrative, Rwanda embraced the tragedy that is the genocide, South Africa is working on the aftermath of apartheid. And as much as there’s still racial injustice in the US, we see small progress. In Nigeria,

we just move on from one tragedy to another. No one apologizes for anything, no one accepts responsibility for wrongdoings. Generation after generation, we make efforts to erase memories of major events from history; so no one will ask questions. As a believer in Nig and someone

who is forever committed to nation building, from the North to South, it is extremely tough to imagine how we can move forward without confronting the things that are holding us back. And so once again, I am writing as I have done for the last one month, to appeal to our

Leaders. Stop shying away from tough conversations. The unity of Nigeria is like the unity that exists in a marriage. It is almost mostly sustainable by communication, apologies and forgiveness. These 3 are also elements of love. Leadership without empathy is like a marriage

without love. Whether we like it or not, the North, South, East and West are in an intrinsically complex marriage called Nigeria. We have produced many children, almost 200 million and growing. Many have no where else to run to so and no one is going to adopt us. It is time we

begin to face the realities of this marriage and embrace its complexities. Ours can be a shining example of how a nation as complex as Nigeria looks so easy to run or govern. It rises and falls on truth, forgiveness and reconciliation. So help us God!