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Why dark-skinned black girls like me aren't getting married | Life and style | The Guardian https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/apr/08/dark-skinned-black-girls-dont-get-married
People love to argue with stats but essentially if dsbw are only desired by a few bm then that means only a few are being picked for marriage. What happens to the rest of us, especially those with disabilities whoâs dating pool is already very small.
Which means less than a few are in healthy black marriages. People tend to forget that dsbw still experience colourism/abuse in their intimate relationships.
So are people telling dsbw to settle even if weâre unhappy for the betterment of the community? Because stats show that we arenât getting picked and misogynoir is still alive and kicking!
Iâm sorry but I donât think there is a conscious black man out there for everybody. In 2020 bw are begging to be protected and itâs controversial 
. Atm bm donât have any sense of urgency to eradicate these problematic community issues that affect both women and children.
. Atm bm donât have any sense of urgency to eradicate these problematic community issues that affect both women and children.
And what some of you know to be âconsciousnessâ is the bare minimum. You love bw so much, what do you know about us in regards to health? Do you understand that we have also lived through trauma too? Do you understand that in most spaces we are invisible in comparison to the bm?
Hoteps will sit and debate wigs and weaves for hours. Hair isnât killing bw, misogynoir is! Colourism is!
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When it comes to this topic I have to be serious sorry because you as a bm cant go years being colourist, dating unintentionally, spreading stds and forcing bw to abort their babies and BOOM 10yrs later you want to be pro-black without understanding the state your community is in
You canât go years sexually assaulting bw, financially abusing them and pretending as if bw wanting to date outside their race is self-hatred. There are several broken bw in our community, traumatised even! Scared to trust a bm again and I donât blame them.
Bw dating outside their race is actually a matter of survival because no one on this earth should wait a decade for bm to fix up and then eventually marry a serious candidate! No one!
I forbid it! As a dsbw especially, you deserve happiness. You deserve to be loved to the fullest. Donât let men that have contributed to the destruction of the community tell you otherwise. They don fuck up, thatâs their business.
